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writes:Hi this is following my question I wrote the other day. It was titled "I have developed a need to be with my husband, I miss him even when he's at work" They may not be the exact words but I posted it on the 26th July if that helps. Anyway thanks for the answers I got, I totally can see where one of you was coming from when saying he was your sfaety net and it might have been a panic attack. I just really don't think it should have carried on like that. Referring to the other answer I got, I do have a life of my own, I go out regularly and I have told my best friend about this who is also best friends with my husband and she says I should really talk to him about it. I felt silly telling her and at first she couldn't make much sense of it but I'm glad I told her in the end. I really wanna talk to him about this but I'm not sure how to bring it up, we have never had any problems in our relationship and marriage so I don't think it could be that. I'm just so scared of losing him, I know I have no need to be but since it all happened I just can't get rid of the thought and that night in the cave just keeps coming back to me (like a flash back) especially when I'm alone or at night if he's asleep and I can't. I really want this to stop happening and try to explain all this to him I just don't know how. thanks to all of you that helped me you really helped me understand what was happening more. Please help
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (29 July 2007):
 I was the one that said about the panick attack & him being your safety net but if it was me i would sit him down & explain it exactly how you did on here, it was very clear. He's very lucky to have you. He will take it as a compliment! & no doubtedly will want to give you lots of reassurance for sure. Then you can BOTH go from there.
Keep us posted.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2007): What happened in the cave? What is the cause of all this fear? Why would you feel your husband is abandoning you? Will leave you?
Do you feel worthy of him? Do you ignore alot of your feelings and needs out of fear of losing him and now it's catching up?
Is their history of anxiety attacks in your family? Have you spoke to your family doctor about this?
This could be chemical related in that you are in a chemical imbalance. Women who lack estrogen can appear to be emotionally unstable and violent.
Alot of aggressiveness and whatnot can be related to medicine so rule that out first.
Then rule out past traumas and pain by seeking counselling.
I'm trying to locate your original question to gain more insight.
Best Wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2007): Hey there - men (as you will probably know) are kinda thick when it comes to this sort of thing. I'll bet he has no idea that you're having these feelings/thoughts and that he'll be really glad you told him about them. As for the how, probably best when you're both relaxed. It really is nothing to be ashamed of(you've good a good friend there!) and from what you say,it sounds like he'll understand. Best of luck!
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