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writes:Dear Cupid,I am in a situation. I've always been straight but fell in love with my best friend who is a female. i dont know how it happened but we've been together for two years now and we are deeply in love. My problem is that before we got together, when we were both straight, i REALLY liked her brother. And he liked me too. We were never together because of our own personal reasons but that didnt stop us from getting to about 3rd base together. He now knows about me and his sister and he has a gf as well. But I think without admitting it to eachother we still have feelings for eachother. I know I do at least. But i am so in love with my girlfried. I don't know what to do because everytime I am around her brother I don't want to leave him. Its kind of like an out of sight out of mind situation but when he's in my sight it's like nothing else matters. I don't know what to do!!I think I love them both...
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2008): You should probably tell your girlfriend that you once had a thing for her brother and still do. Sooner or later, she is probably going to figure it out, especially if she notices how you act when you are around her brother.
Also, if you feel like you are in love with both your girlfriend and her brother, then a three-way relationship with both of them might be the way to go. That way, you could have your cake and eat it too, no pun intended. Of course, you would have to talk to both of them about it and they would both have to be open to it.
Do you think you could have a relationship with both of them? If so, and you feel like you love them both, it might be worth exploring. Post back if you have any more questions or comments.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2008): No, she never knew anything about me an her brother.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2008): Your young and maybe a bit confused. You need to sort out your own sexuallity. If you are under 20 then sometimes we feel drawn at that age to both sex, i know i did, so you are not alone.
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reader, Kevorkian +, writes (30 April 2008):
 You are gonna have to figure out if you are a 1 person kinda girl. If not and everyone is okay, fire up. Might want to make sure everyone is on board tho.
From the sounds of it, you are going to end up hurting people including yourself. Is that what you really want?
You might want to sit down and figure out what you really want as a person, what makes you happy.
Try going from there. I don't have the time nor the patience to deal with 2 relationships at once, so I am a bit biased. ;)
Good luck!
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