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writes: I'm confused on how to act next with this problem. I'm 14 and have recently fallen in love with my science teacher who is roughly ten years older than me, also he has a fiance. This is honestly the first guy I have ever felt totally in love with and he is just perfect. I kno you may think I am too young for all this, but I am immensely mature for my age and have been told so by a lot of people. Should I forget about him or try and be with him maybe after I leave that school, or should I try to get to know him better now?! I don't know what to do.
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reader, bikerchic21  +, writes (12 June 2008):
Oh hun... Ok I'm not much older then you; I'm only 17, but sweetie as much as I know you don't want to hear this come from anyone, you need to try and let this go. Nothing will come out of liking him. Student/Teacher relationships are taken VERY sierously in the United States and have Serious penelatys for both the student and the teacher. What you have is a crush; and now before you judge what I say, I may be wrong, maybe you do love him in a innocent caring way. But nothing will come of it. Teacher's can get sent to jail, lose their teaching crediential, and lose a reputation. Take it from me, I have very strong feelings for a teacher of mine and they have had the same feelings back; now me one, being in high school and two knowing the teacher well enough have told them (which I do not suggest you do) but this kind of mutal feeling is normal. But you need to learn to not take any action of it in anyway. Its hard, yes and it will take time and even it will sometimes hurt but if you really love him as much as you say you do; you will let this all go for the sake of his future and your own.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2008): What a relief to know that I'm not the only one in a situation like this. I'am head over heels IN LOVE with my teacher. He is 37 and I'm 15 but I don't care, he drives me wild. Everytime I see him my heart starts pounding really fast and my tummy starts burning. I love being in his class, he flirts with me alot which I'm not complaining about. I think what really told him I like him was when I gave him a gift for Valentines day. I always check him out, he has such a nice ass lol. I hate the fact that he's married with kids, but I can't change my feelings for him. I would say give it time and if you truly feel that you love him, then start to flirt a bit but don't make it to obvious. Just follow your heart. Best of luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2008): Hey girls,
ive just read your posts and i hope my answer gets to you in time.
you probably mistake admiring for loving, which, at your age is utterly normal.
just please, please, forget him and dont get involved with him
ive got 2 friends, who were in the same situation, but unluckily, the teachers found them appealing, too.
one of them leaded the romance for more than 10 years, while he was living with his wife and 2 kids.
the other was dumped after 2 years.
i personally hate both males cause they partialy ruined the lives of 2 innocent girls. i also dont think they should be counted as teachers if they look at their students as females.
might right now you feel its the only true feeling in ur life, u got problems with ur family, but DO NOT. rush into something like this.
dont trust your teachers, most male teachers are pervs.
live the life of a 14 year old, normal and happy girl.
just think about it with clear head and youll realize its not good for you.
im not much older than you (im 19), so i know how girls our age feel (i guess). i highly doubt it would be love. you may daydream about him and such, but its not right (and not because its immoral, which, from your part isnt so), but because youll only hurt yourself if you go on this way.
i advise you to hang around with your friends, have fun, do some sports and STAY AWAY FROM HIM (he wouldnt ever leave his fiance, so youd be just a quick f. sry, but i guess, thats reality)
all the best!! take good care!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008): I am so glad that I found this thread. I am 15 years old and I have fallen completely in love with my english teacher, he is 32 years old and single. I am smart enough to know that there is almost no chance of anything happening ever, all I am to him is a young, naive, kid, and I'm guessing that's all I'll ever be to him. =[ I want to cry thinking about it, I love him and I want him. I do everything to "accidentally" run into him. I have convinced my friends to hangout near the outside of his classroom and I look for him in the halls just to say hi. I will also find every possible excuse to walk into his classroom for a talk. My parents are going through a divorce and I really can talk to him, it is comforting to know that he is there for me. Also, I will have dreams about him, and I am completely obsessed, it's terrible, but it's life I guess.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2008): ok...first off...you cannot confront him with this problem because he is a teacher and you are a student. there are laws against student teacher relationships and also you are only 14 years old. im not saying its impossible to fall in love with somebody who is 10 years older than you. im just saying that the odds are against you. i mean... how do you know that what he is...your love...is going to be the same when you are his age. wait until high school to even mention the words i love you to somebody when your in a relationship. trust me. being 14 and "in love with your science teacher...and he's engaged" does this sound like love? you cant love somebody who has already found love with somebody who is out of college and engaged with most likely the love of HIS life...who my guess he didnt find and age 14
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2008): can i just say, if u r still reading help advice and what not if you are seriously in love with this guy u need 2 get it sortd out now. i went through dis wen i waz 14 jst lyk u n it went on 4eva, n now ive attemptd suicide n social servicz r involvd coz itz drivin me crazy. obviously dis is worst case scenario n dere r otha fngz such az da fact i am failin my gcse's because of dis which r drivin me down but u seriously need 2 sort it out now, if u reli do love him.
if he's engaged, surley he wnt mean dat much 2 u? i kno dis is da harsh truth but u seemd 2 hav workd it out alredi. if all else fails, n dis is reli hard, tell him. dnt expect him 2 do anythin, but expect him 2 hav a solution.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2008): hey , im in love with my teacher as well so im in the same boat as you, and hes leaving me school soon!!
I feel so sad. But im sure we will get over our loves xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2008): i'm just like all of you guys - i love my teacher too, and my life really sucks at the moment, so his lessons twice a week are literally the only thing that keeps me going, but i had him today, and as i watched him i realised that he really does see me - and everyone else my age - as a child. i mean, he IS 31, but im 15, and dont feel like a child, but as a teacher, thats what we are to him, to all teachers. it completely sucks, and when i thought of this, i just wanted to cry, right there in front of him and everyone, and i so almost just ran out of the lesson, which is something ive never done or even considered before. And then, he said to me in his gorgous deep masculine voice "have you finished?" and usually i love it when he talks to me but he called me by my sister's name, which to me is like, awful, becuase it means that im not special enough to him, and though he apologised, i just felt like crying even more, and then he came over to my desk, and my throat contracted and my heart lurched, and i just wanted to smile at him, to say something interesting and witty, but i was too shook up and emotionally frozen and numb inside to do anything other than murmur "no," and look back down at the ridiculously easy work we were doing that i just couldn't concentrate on becuase all i could think of was that he'll never see me the way i wish he would, and that we'll never ever ever be together. when the lesson ended, i just wanted to run out of the school and miss last lesson becuase i felt like i had nothing to live for - its going to be 4 days till i see him again and i have NOTHING but him. i didn't run away, i found the quietest spot i could find outside, lent against a wall, and in the softly falling rain, cried. he is so perfect to me, in every way, and i think we all have different opinions of what "love" is, but my biology teacher said that love is wanting to do anything for someone, and i would do anything and everything for this man. in lessons, i used to doodle audacious stick man adventures, but all the enthusiasm for even the most trivial things ilke that has been sucked out of me - now i just draw hearts everywhere, its like an addiction, and i have lost all interest in things i used to enjoy. i'm so unhappy, i don't know how i'll ever pass my GCSEs, becuase i have no motivation.
i don't know if other people feel like me - there seem to be so many other people who say that they're in love with their teachers - but it is making me so unhappy, and i don't have anyone ot talk about it to, which is why this is so long, sorry, but i don't know... i hope that if anyone is reading this, then its kind of helped you, if you feel the same way i do, i mean. my teacher isn't married or anything, so im lucky in that sense, but you other guys at least seem to have someone to talk to about all this stuff. i swear to god, love is the most painful emotion. well, unreqited love anyway.
so you're not alone, if you feel the same way. i still feel alone though, every second of every day. it's slowly killing me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2008): wow so im not the only one who's in love with my teacher!
he's my chemistry teacher in my junior year, they say he is the most hansome teacher in the campusbut i think hes too strictand doesnt respond when you greet him. i really hated him then and i feel sick during his class. i literally celebrated when vacation started. but i feel lonely and i started to look forward his reproaches even his comments to my works, i just have to hear his voice again. i've realized im in love with him all along but his negative side just got me. well maybe its shameful but theres no law that prohibits us from loving our teachers. i even fantasized that hes got a crushon me i just don tstop loving him now, by the way im a senior now and he no longer my teacher though my feelings never wavered
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2008): I'm in love with my 23year old student- teacher. She is not a real teacher yet still a uni student
Just getting some experience in a classroom before completing her degree before being able to teach.
She is teaching my class to complete her unsupervised teaching,
She is so damn HOT!
I kind of feel sorry for her too.
No one listens to her, only my frinds and i listen and do our work. She acknowledges this as well
We are 7 years apart, not bad actually. i'm 16 she's 23.
I think she has an idea that i like her :]
Well i guess i have to wait 1 more week. thats when she finishes her student-teacher teaching thing and goes back to uni. Thats the day where she won't be my teacher anymore.
I really really like her a lot!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2008): I think you should try to get to know him better before you try to do anything else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2008): I know exactly what you're going through. You'll never be alone with this kind of problem. Many, many people have gone through it. I assume you've heard stories of teachers and students getting together, and they turned out for the best. Well, most of them will not turn out like that, believe me. I'm 16 and my teacher is 44. He was my history teacher for freshman year, and I've been in love with him ever since. He married a woman from England in December '05, and she's coming here to America. There's nothing I can do about it now. I couldn't break them apart even if I tried to. I'm not that kind of girl. I'm quite shy, so I never show my feelings toward him. Him, I'm not so sure about. I feel he treats me differently than the other students. I think he has amazing eyes and the times he holds his gaze at me, I can do nothing but smile and turn away. The worst thing is, the more I pull away, the more I still want him. I like that he listens to me, and I do the same to him. As he said once, "you have a sympathetic ear." Well, I think the best solution is to just..admire him from afar. That's what I'm trying to do. Sometimes I have to tell myself, "He's not anything you need." or "You'll find the right guy someday." Maybe I'll find someone with the same qualities as him, and hopefully..he'll be closer to my age! =]I wish you the best of luck, and don't worry, I'm sure you'll find the right person!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2008): Hey there!Ok I can speak from experience here. In first year we had an absolutely gorgeous form teacher called Miss McCarthy. She was about 26, funny and really nice to me. Needless to say, I fell totally and utterly in love. I'd spend nights fantasising about running away with her and kissing her. So I can realate to you totally here.What I can tell you is stuff that I've learned since then. There's a difference between love and infatuation, and it's one I had to learn on numerous times. You know that phrase 'love at first sight'? There's no such thing.Think about it, you can meet someone who is utterly gorgeous and funny, but can you fall in love with them without knowing them, the person that they really are? I don't think so. If you truely love someone, you should be able to know and accept all their little faults and quirks, you should be able to love their true personality, rather than the masks they wear to hide themselves from daily scrutiny(prepare a face to meet the faces that you meet). Yeah, I like T.S. Eliot...ahem.What I'm trying to say in a roundabout way is that you need to understand that you're not actually in love with him! Yes, I know that you can't stop thinking about him and you fantasise about a life together, but until you actually know the true man, there's not really any way you could be in love.It's infatuation, or possibly even lust. I mean, do you actually know him personally? Have you talked to him about politics, religion, his views on the war in Iraq? Do you know whether he prefers dogs or cats, his favourite food or band? What I want you to see is that you actually don't know much about him, and you're infatuated with the idea of what he could be like. I know. I was exactly the same.Finally, a harsh truth that I also learned. Most adults will have little to no interest in a 14 year old boy/girl. And if they do...best to steer clear. You say that he is engaged, which should also maybe show you that the actual possibility of a relationship is remote.I'm sorry that this isn't what you wanted to hear, but it's the truth. There's nothing wrong with fantasising about someone, I do it all the time with Angelina Jolie (don't tell the gf plz!) But you have to be careful when you seriously consider pursuing a life with someone who's not available. So by all means, have a crush on him, talk to him and enjoy his company. But I wouldn't actually do anything about it, cause in the end you only wind up embarassed. Like I said, I know...Hope this helps, and I know you'll be disappointed, but don't worry, a girl as intelligent and mature as yourself will find someone to make you very happy. I promise!Best of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2008): Yeah. There are a lot of people with the same problem. Just wait it out. You'll grow out of it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2008): I'm in the same situation as most of you. Firstly, I'm a 17 year old junior and I'm CRAZY in love with a biology teacher at my school. He's 28 or 29 and he's got these beautiful green eyes that mesmerize me every time I see him (I have green eyes too). He's pale like me and I want to have kids with him. He's in the classroom next to me and I walk past him all the time. It's like we rendezvous everyday because he always sees me. He comes into my classroom every other day to pretend like he needs something from my biology teacher, but he always stares at me. I smile at him and give him my “look down and then up” eye, and I think he's got it in for me too. One time my teacher sent me to his room to get a microscope and he stared into my eyes and said you "you have very pretty eyes". I know he's not married so I've wanted to date him for a long time. I KNOW HE LIKES ME! He gets very nervous around me and st-st-studders. He also tries to impress me. A lot of guys at my school like me and flirt with me, but I'm attracted to older men, particularly him. I fantasize about having sex with him all the time; I want to lose my virginity to him. I could get any guy I want because I'm a "pretty, skinny and smart blonde" but I want him! I want him SO BAD. I get butterflies when I see him. Why won't he make a move? How can I start a relationship with him? I want him to pin me up against a wall or throw me on a desk or lock me in a back room and make love to me. I want to bite his lips and touch his skin. I'm going crazy not being with him. I know he would want to do the same to me because I get hit on all the time because I'm innocent (straight A’s) yet very attractive. If he knew how I felt he would be tempted to take me out or to his house, but I'm so scared of the consequences. I'm also inspired by the consequences because it's "naughty" and dangerous. I wouldn't want any of the administration to find out because it would be on the news and he'd loose his teaching license. I want a secretive affair that no one but him and me know about, and then when I graduate we could leave and make it public. What should I do? He’s so close but so far away. I’m pulling my hair out not being with him. It won’t be the same when I’m older. I want to experience a relationship like this while I’m still young.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2008): that is weird because i'm fifteen and i have a complete and total crush on my science teacher too and i don't know what to do either. the thing is that he is already married but i can't do anything because one it's against the law and two i'm too young for him. but i hate it because i can never stop thinking about him and it gets deeper so i feel really weird when i see him but nobody knows how i feel, but me
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2008): hey honey,
I know a lot of people will say that it is a crush. It may be, or it may not be. I can't say that for you. What i can say, is that you can't have anything to do with him.
It has nothing to do with you being a student, and everything to do with him being in a relationship. I know what you're going through, i fell in love with a teacher almost three years ago, and he hasn't taught me for two years, and i still think of him everytime I see a car that looks like his. Honestly it still stings everytime I see my old school, when i go back to pick up my brother, or I go to help kids there academically.
The thing about being mature that sucks is that you have to accept the fact that it hurts, and sacrifice your happiness for his. Even if he did love you more than he loves the other woman, things would get complicated, and she would get hurt, and even worse his son would get hurt. Most people would do anything to protect their children. It would be dilusional to think he values you more than his son.
What would probably happen if you told him is either he won't feel the same and he'll be really akward, or he will and it will hurt him.
If you really love him, for his sake, and the sake of people he loves, and honestly for your own sanity, let him go. if you can't, pretend.
Thats the best advice I have.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2008): HEY - I'm in a situation like this only a tad bit different. I do belive 14 is young for you girl, and although i have strong beliefs that you can fall in love at practically any age, 14 is very young and it appears to me that you don't know him personally and thus only infatuate about him that's all.
I'm 16 - and have been told i have the mentally of a 25 year old woman due to my past experiences which only caused me to grow up faster than others my age. I'm in love with my former head of year and have been for the past 3 or so years - and i do in fact know him personally.
Through all of my hard times he was there for me and still is up until now. I won't go into my bad experiences but whilst I taught him alot about my life - he taught me alot about his. I know so much about his past and present and know him alot more than any other student. That's how I know it's real. His personality and personal opinions and such have made me see his inner beauty, and his imperfections i see so perfectly. I'm pretty sure he knows in fact i know he does only i want to tell him. I'm wise enough to know nothing can happen, and of course this kills me. But by telling him ALL I WANT TO GAIN is the ability to move on.
After all i know i won't be able to to move on unless i tell him, i won't ask himfor nothing but to ackowledge my feelings. I don't know what i should do i just know i need to tell him. It makes me physically sick keeping this in.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2007): Hey all, this is a tought situation huh. I am a junior in college and I have been in love with my music composition and theory teacher for 2 years now. He is wonderful, and married. It kills me to know if in some way I would have got there a year earlier I would have stood a chance. I am engaged by the way, to the most amazing guy, but he isnt the same as my teacher.
I finally let him know! After so long, im sure you all know, of letting the tension build up, i couldnt take it any more, i walked into his office one day and said sit down for this. I spilled my heart to him, how i loved him and had been in love with him for 2 years and everything. This man is amazing, because he is true to his wife. All he could say was, "i dont know what to say." It hurts so bad because he flirts with me too, i know he is attracted to me because i catch him starring at me. I love him, and every day i have to see him and it hurts more because i know we wont ever make anything of it. I would give up my fiance in a heart beat to be with this man, you just know in life when you meet your soul mate, who you have that connection with, and i have that connection with my teacher. He is about 31, and so sexy. I hate going to his classes because it hurts so bad, and I love going to his classes because i get to be around someone who truly makes me happy.
My advice to all of you is to just let them know! You will never be happy with yourself if you just keep it bottled up inside, and the chance is if they feel the same they will let you know, and if they dont, they are mature enough to keep a strong student/teacher relationship with you. But one thing i truly believe in...YOU SHOULD NEVER BE EMBARESSED ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2007): I feel everyones pain here. I fell in love with my married drama teacher when I was 16. He was/is also the girls swim coach. He has an amazing body, soulful eyes, soothing deep voice, and an amazing understanding of women. He was also about 38 I think. I know he was attracted to me physicaly and every other way. Sometimes I would look up from my seat to his desk and see him staring at me for long periods of time. I was more alive in those moments than any others before it. It was something between us that was known but not spoken. It was something I know would never turn into anything. It was like courtly love. A love that is real but can never be consumated and I think that is very romantic. I took his class every year and I graduated in 2003. I am now 23 and I am still in love with him and dream of him regularly. I have met the man I am meant to be with and I love him so much. But I will always be in love with this teacher. We still e-mail sometimes and maybe thats why I cant let him go. Yeah, love hurts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2007): Hey hun! Sorry you're going through this as well!I'm 17 years old (grade 11) and in love with my ex-English teacher who taught me in 9th grade. He is 28 years old and just got married this past summer. It's heart-breaking. He found out that I had a huge crush on him at the end of 9th grade. Was obvious anyways because I turn red and shake while talking to him. Also, many girls in my school have a crush on him because he's extremely good-looking. When he found all this out, he got pretty cocky. Although, for me, it is so much more than a crush now, because I care for him so deeply and just want him to be happy. That's why, even though I get upset when thinking of him and his wife, I know he's happy and that makes me feel better. I talk to him on a daily basis and ask him to help me with stuff for English still. When I talk to him I kind of just get lost in his eyes. He's so smart and mature! I still get so nervous when around him and I know he can feel some 'sexual tension' too. I want to tell him how I feel so bad but I don't want to put him into a crappy situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2007): hallo eveybody.To all the girls that got feelings for their teachers,i got somethin to say.I'm almost 17 and i think i 'm in love with my math teacher who is 36 years old and has a fiance.From the begining of the year,i see him staring at me and being very polite and interested in me and my grades.I know that this will sound very odd,but he is a man.I used to see things very romantic but i understood that he just has a small attraction on me and nothin will happen.When we talk i don't look at him in the eyes cuz i feel weird...even though i like it.I think of me and him together but i know that there is no chance...this is the whorst part...i won't quit thinking of him though...i'm extremly attracted on him and i can't help this...take care all you people in love
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2007): I'm reading this and thinking that some of you guys are me. Oh, goodness I've been in love with my teacher for a year and a half now...at first I didn't even pay him any mind but I noticed how he'd check me out and be nice to me. Mind you...I don't think...well I'm not that pretty,lol. He just made me feel so good and now...he's married and has a baby and I love him GOD I love him and now I'm his intern in my last year and I want to tell him but I get so afraid...I can't even look him in the eye at times. He's just so beautiful and smart and I want to be there for him in EVERYTHING. I think about us...together and I hate when people bring up his wife...I just get so depressed thinking about them together. I'm going to tell him our last day together. I can't believe I'm confessing this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2007): I'M SO GLAD I'M NOT ALONE! Oh, I am in the deepest of love with my 24-year old teacher, and I'm 18 and have had enough expierence to understand my feelings, and understand where everyone else is coming from. It seriously brought tears to my eyes seeing that my difficult situation is not unusual. Anyway, you asked the question 2 years ago, so you're probably about 16 now, so you might not even like this guy anymore, but to everyone else with this problem, flirt with him all you like, but just wait until you're 18 and graduated. Give him your number on the last day of school or something. If he's single, I mean. If he's married, it will just be too obvious what your intentions are, and I don't think his wife would appreciate that. Don't listen to everyone that says it won't work, who are they to tell you what will happen? Best of luck, everyone!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2007): Im 14, and it took me 1 week to fall in love with my like univeristy learning teacher, she came to practice teach, and we got real close. she leaves tomorrow, ill never get to see her again. what should i do. shes so beautiful. i really think she likes me too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2007): of course unfortuantely I have the same problem here. I feel for my teacher, and I cant seem to get him out of my mind. It's crazy...I have been in obsessive mode...with every breathe I take I am thinking about him...and fantasizing a life with him...it's very disturbing. The thing is I try to hide it so that he doesn't know what is going on , but the more I try to hide my thoughts abouth im,
the more obvious it has gotten that I had a huge infatuation WITH him. 8(
He is a conceited guy and likes attention to be directed toawrds him so that he can proclaim to the world how VIP he is, and when he knew my infatuation he actually expressed the fact that he was flattered and actually fed his ego even more. It was truly hell being in class.
The class is about half a year over and I'm STILL thinking about him. It's amazing how many tears I have shed for this guy, irrationally; I am a bit embarrased by my behavior, but from my past love experiences and this experience also I'd say that at least I learned that it takes me about 1-2 years of distance to forget about a person and move on. I wish it was less though 8)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2007): hiya !! i no exactly how you feel and i no that loads of people would say this but i do i cant tell you what to do because im sort of in the same situation. i'm 14 years old nearly 15 and in yr10. i am so madly in love with my geography teacher i mean madly. he taught me in yr9 and i so hoped i wouldnt get him for my GCSE's
For starters i really find it hard to concentrate in his lessons.
my friends dont understand they say its a crush but ive had crushes before on teachers and none have felt so deppressing because i no nothing can happen but i really want something to happen
i feel so sad when hes not at school and when i miss his lessons because im ill but so excited when im around him i can hardly ever write straight because me hands shake and i get so nervous with buttiflies in my stomache and my hands start to sweat and the hair on the back of my neck stamd up!
when he notices me or talks to me or smiles or laughs i feel as though it means something deep down i no it dosen't but i cant help it! i think he nos i like him but i dont confirm it or deni it either.
i mean today i had his lesson and i couldnt take my eyes off him he kept making eye contact with me for ages and always comes to sit next to me when where watching films and i get so nervous
when i got home i burst out crying because i no it could never happen and it hurts so much
he has just had an operation on his leg and hes was back for the first time in a week and he had a limp and needed a bit of surpport up the stairs so i helped him but people were taking the mick out of him and i was straight to his defence but i no this sounds strange but when he seems sad i always feel sad when he feels pain i feel pain in me i no his b-day and his age and loads of stuff about him and i just wanna be there to confort him when he needs comforting and to be there to celebrate with him when hes celebrating
i even dream about i cant get him out of my head hes in there 24-7 please someone reply to me and help !!!!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2007): I know where you are coming from. I am a teacher (married, with two children I love very much) but have fallen in love with one of my students. I still love my husband very much, but I am very attracted to this student. It's tough however because she is only 17 and I am in my mid 30s. Also, she is girl,so I am not sure why I think she is so awesome. The love I feel for her doesn't seem sexual however..I think it is more of an "i want to be your mother" love. Try building this relationship with your teacher.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2007): hello,i didn't know so many people are in love with their teachers.Well i'm not actually in love with him but i really like him.He is my economics teacher and he is amazingly good looking and has a great personality.I've always been atracted on older guys but he is 30 and im 16...huge difference.Sometimes he stares at me when he is talking and i turn from the other side cuz im really shy.I hvan't told anyone, not even my friends cuz i feel like is something i want to keep exclusivly for myself.I cant stop thinking of him and i know it sounds a little stupid but i think that he likes me better than the other three girls in my class cuz i'm smarter at his class and a bit more goodlooking to be honest.Well,its just a dream nothing will happen.he is also engaged so...keep dreamin...to all the girls that feel the way i do,be petient we will find a prince in our age.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2007): Hi, ive got the same problem but slightly different and dont know how to start up a new thread sorta thing. Im 19 and my maths teacher was 21 and straight out of uni when he started at my college when i was 17. He has taught me for all of my four double math lessons most days for the past two years. He is and was single with no children. Over the past two years we have become really friendly with each other like talking like in between lessons and before and after school but it was during last years christmas balls that things took a turn. After the ball the whole school went to some hotel for an after party and meal but me and my male maths teacher went off and did our own thing and ended up back at my flat coz i have lived on my own for the past year. While drinking a bottle of wine we talked about everything from school stuff to future plans and ambitions etc. We genuinely had a great time together like always since he started at my school. Well , i got up to go stick the used glasses in the sink and as i got up i felt his hand in mine and as i turned around we began kissing and we spent the night together. So for the past nine months we have been dating each other exclusively , just without anyone knowing because of obvious repercussions. It doesnt affect us at school , we just act like regular student - teacher relationship so its not like its having any bad effects on our lives. There is only a four year age gap which isnt much in todays society but i dont know what would happen to him if it got out without us letting everyone know. Im over 18 and its a consensual relationship so nothing bad could happen to him surely? I know i love him and he loves me but im scared incase anything happens to him if people were to accidently find out without us announcing it. Any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2007): I know how you feel!
Im 14 and I'm madly in love with my ex-ICT teacher. It all started in year 8 When he first taught me! He was everything I wanted in a guy! I went on for ages shaking everytime I saw him and madly Blushing and all the time I denied it. Everytime someone asked me if I fancied him. I knew it couldn't be so I tried to stop these feelings! But they were to strong! The next year I got my timetable and He wasn't teaching me at first I was gutted but then again I knew I had to move on so I spent the majority of a year away from him! But everytime I saw him it all happened again! I tried to get him out my head! I have told someone and he is still there! It is now the next year and I still cant shake the feelings. It is love and I don't know what to do?!?! So all I can say is 'Dont tell him you love him!!' It just gets you into a big hole!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2007): I'm in love with my 23year old student- teacher. She is not a real teacher yet still a uni student
Just getting some experience in a classroom before completing her degree before being able to teach.
She is teaching my class to complete her unsupervised teaching,
She is so damn HOT!
I kind of feel sorry for her too.
No one listens to her, only my frinds and i listen and do our work. She acknowledges this as well
We are 7 years apart, not bad actually. i'm 16 she's 23.
I think she has an idea that i like her :]
Well i guess i have to wait 1 more week. thats when she finishes her student-teacher teaching thing and goes back to uni. Thats the day where she won't be my teacher anymore.
I really really like her a lot!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2007): Hey All!I keep reading the advice from people responding to teacher crushes who say "...of course you realise your teacher won't possibly have the same feelings for you."I'm a music teacher (not at a school, just privately) and I recently fell in Love with a student of mine. I'm 38, she's 16.I started teaching her and her brother last year, and helped them put a bit of a band together. They put on a performance at a Christmas party, then afterwards there was a bit of dancing. She and I were dancing to some faster songs, then something slower came on and we danced close. When the next fast song came on, we just kept hugging each other. We never wanted to let go of each other. Gotta love those slow dances!She's in Year 11, she's smart, arty, speaks several languages, has spent 6 months living in France. She's cute and sexy and smells so nice. She was teaching me to speak French, and I have learned so much from her, and she from me, partly because of the age difference, and because she's so damn smart.After seven wonderful months together, she broke up with me. She's met someone her own age. I'm so heartbroken! I loved spending my time with her.Dunno what the point of this story is, but i hope it gives you all something to think about!PS this was all done with her parents permission, but maybe not their "blessing".
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2007): I know exactly how you feel. Im a chick and fell madly in love with my Science teacher too, but shes a chick too. Shes engaged and getting married in November. I told her i loved her, and from then on things have gone all down hill. Dont make the same mistake as me. Keep it to yourself, and dont try to get him for yourself. And dont tell anyone your secrets, unless you can really trust them, i know this from personally experience. First try to get over him, and if that doesnt work talk to a counselor about it. If that doesnt work then i guess you are really in love, cause thats what happened to me. I still love her, but if i dont get over her i was told i was going to get expelled or moved classes, so just think about what your doing, and whatever you do DONT BECME OBSESSIVE OR STALK HIM!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2007): Hey hun, listen I don`t think anybody else knows exactly what you`re going through as much as I do. I fell in head-over-heels love with my reading/writing teacher this year, and the second I did it was extremely hard because halfway through the year he got engaged. When I heard this, I literally cried because of it. All my friends think I am INSANE , except for a few who actually understand. And this year I`m going to high school, away from him for possibly the rest of my life except for occasional visits. I just felt he was perfect, everything I needed, he was the sweetest man ever and I always thought that he treated me differently than other students. But I`m currently working on the same problem you are ... mostly I try to keep in touch with e-mail , but whenever I start thinking about us being together, I remind myself that maybe there`s a reason why hes 12 years older than I am. Perhaps there`s a reason he got engaged ... it just wasn`t meant to be. And as unbelievably hard it is to grasp that concept, I`m trying to accept it and you should to. I believe there`s a perfect person out there for everyone, and I wish you luck. But for now, try to just accept the fact that it can`t work, and busy yourself with other things. Good luck! 3
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2007): wow I didnt realise so many others had feelings for their teachers... I aways thought it was immensly abnormal and that I was pathetic for even considering that I lovef my teacher... but I do!!! He's my history teacher and he's incredibly good-looking, but he's soo conceited and proud with his gestures and the way he acts, that it really annoys me, but at the same time makes me fall inlove with him even more. I'm 15 years old & he's probly atleast in his 30's lol... but part of me can't stop thinkin about him. I mean his the perfect kinda guy... and I always fall for older guys because there soo much more mature (and ive been known to be very mature for my age) and I know crazy... but I really do love him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2007): hey hun. I totally know how you fee. I am 16 and i am to in loce with my teacher who is 30. I really love him and i feel we have a connection. I haven't told anyone this before so i know how you feel. Try to control your emotions, i know its hard, but one day you will find your real prince charming.
All the best
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2007): fantasies are a good thing to have. But I've only heard of two student-teacher relationships that worked in the end. Sorry. There's a pretty good chance it won't work, but If you must,...you could do what I did...and there are seven words that can explain it. "Some people think I am stalking her". But try your best not to do that.
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