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I'm in a relationship temporarily, but my friend says I should give in to other women. I take it this would be wrong?

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Question - (27 August 2009) 3 Answers - (Newest, 27 August 2009)
A male United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hi

I've been out with a close friend tonight. We're both in relationships. Unlike him, I'm in a relationship that will be ending (mutually) soon due to circumstances (being that we are both going to University in just a few weeks time). Tonight in a club we were both approached by a number of girls (this does not usually happen, so please don't think that I'm boasting). Being 100% loyal to the woman I'm currently seeing, I didn't hit on any of the ladies who approached me. However my friend is now saying that I should have, given that my current relationship is only temporary.

Even though my relationship is only a temporary one, I don't see any reason why I have the right to give in to the advances of other ladies out there. No matter what the circumstances are, I consider myself to be in a relationship (of some sorts). I'm just looking for some reassurance that I'm doing the right thing by myself and the girl I'm seeing. I assume that it would have been totally unacceptable for me to give into temptation, even if, as my friend says "She'd never find out about it"?

I know my friend means well. He is by no means a bad person. He has been a close friend of mine for many years now, but I always try to do the right thing. Would it have been wrong to have given into the other girls at the club tonight?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2009):

Seriously you're a good dude. Your decision was more than correct and I both commend you and urge you not to second guess yourself.Its like you said, a relationship should be respected regardless of its nature whether it be temporary or long term. Basically, ur awesome hermano...ur my hero!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2009):

You my dear, are the reason why women still want to get married and cant let go of fairy tales.

You have a good heart and try to treat people how you would want to be treated. That is not something that is easy to do.

So while your friend may not agree, you will find that many women will. They will appreciate the loyalty, honesty and integrity that is so rare in this day and age.

What ever woman whom happens to land a treasure like you is a lucky one indeed.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2009):

Your friend is wrong it doesnt matter your relationship is ending your still in it you have a gurl at the moment why need to get another gurl now you did the right thing id just wait until your single till then your taken

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