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writes:This feels like such a stupid question to have to ask, in the circumstances especially, but I wondered if someone could help.I last saw my girlfriend on Thursday morning. Through the day I started to come down with cold-like symptoms. On Friday I was sent home from work because of it and I've been resting since then. On Friday evening my girlfriend indicated that she was having a boring night and I assured her that if I were feeling better that we would do something over the weekend.So it's Saturday morning and I am still not feeling well (a bit better, but definitely not 100%). We exchanged some messages and she seemed to be acting a little cold towards me. I suggested that we go for lunch or that she come round at her own risk (obviously I don't want to pass anything on to her). Then I suggested that if she'd prefer we could see each other tomorrow and spend the whole day together.From that, she now doesn't think that I want to see her.... I tried calling her but both times she didn't pick up.What the hell happened? Did I say something wrong?? I made it clear that I wanted to see her and assured her that I was definitely up for doing something if she was prepared to take the risk. Now it seems like she's mad at me and I don't understand why!I think she's massively overreacting over absolutely nothing, but I have to ask, is there something I'm missing? All I've been trying to do for the last couple of days is get better so that we can spend the weekend together, yet for some reason she seems to be taking her boredom and frustrations out on me. It's not like I WANT to feel sick, is it?Please help! Thank you! Reply to this Question
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reader, kinjal  +, writes (26 April 2014):
I guess now it would be too late for me to answer still if things are still the same stop calling her go meet her up personally go at her house and tell her you got worried about her mood so came to check her up all will get sorted after this trust me.I feel she might be in bad mood due to some other reason and not because of youall the best
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2014): I think you're the one overreacting, she's probably just disappointed that she can't see you and now you're going nuts thinking everything is going wrong or something?
OP it's not unusual for people to act cold or distant when they're pissed off at circumstances or in a bad mood, she's allowed be pissed off from time to time you know, it doesn't always have to be about you.
Just relax and let her off. You can't freak out any time she gets this way, she's a woman they get like this sometimes, so do we and some get like this for a full week out of every month.
Don't be one of these people that freaks out if everything isn't always serene and perfect. People get pissed off, it's not going to help the situation if you can't handle your woman being pissed off, or in a bad mood, or disappointed it only makes things worse.
Relax and get better.
Next time don't offer to see her in any capacity if you're sick. In her mind you're not that sick if you're willing to go to lunch with her. You kind of dangled a carrot in front of her by doing that.
Anyway allow her to be in a bad mood, OP, she's probably just pissed at the circumstances not you, and if she is pissed at you for something that's not your fault, then who cares? Don't play up to her if she wants to be a drama queen, but you have to stop being drama king too.
This is not as big a deal as you're making out.
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