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*ylaJ
writes:I think I hate my boyfriend's family. Its been 6 months since the last time I've visited them (which went horribly wrong).I took the brunt of their meaness and turned my cheek and they still complained to my boyfriend that they thought I was a bad person. Their complaints were so ridiculous (mother being insulted by my severe allergy to dust, my eyes and nose wouldn't stop running) and his sister claiming I forced him to live with me for the summer (it wasn't even my idea).I can't stand when my boyfriend talks about his family because I can't stop thinking about the mean things they have said to me and accused me of. Every so often something sarcastic slips from my mouth when he talks about them but I stay silent and nod at him while inside I'm yelling, 'Assholes!'.I am sensing that he doesn't feel comfortable even mentioning them to me and it worries me. I don't mean to be an open book, no matter how hard I try to keep it inside people can sense what I'm really feeling. I don't want to screw this up because of the crap I can't seem to get over. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2007): Best advice I can give you is get out now. Otherwise you are in danger of digging in your heels and staying in the relationship just to make the point to the family. I did this, got married and 14 years later hate the family in law and have suffered terribly in low self esteem from their endless remarks. I wish I'd not bothered. When you get married you marry a family - this is fact. No one prepares you for it so if there are issues you cannot resolve now then don't waste your time. You shouldn't have to prove yourself to anyone.
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reader, angelblueeyes  +, writes (31 October 2007):
 Hi,
I know exactly how you are feeling i didn't get on with the mother in law at all we were like chalk and cheese but one day i went mad and shouted back at her & ever since that day she is has been fine!, not saying that is the way you should go but talk to her about it why does she have such a problem with you etc, don't take it personally some mothers just cant accept the fact that their little boy has grown up and has a life with a g/f!!
The only other option you have is to have nothing to do with them but that will cause a few problems later on in life when it comes to marriage/babie's etc
Good luck anyway hope you get it sorted
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