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writes:I feel so torn at the moment. Basically i have been seeing this guy unofficially for the last 10 months. He has trust issues due to his last two ex gf's cheating on him. I really have fallen for him, but he is keeping distant from me and not letting himself get too in love with me, as he does not want to get hurt again, but at the same time i feel like he is stringing me along.I do want to be with him, but how long can i keep waiting for him. He has told me he does not expect me to wait around for him if it does not work out, but then he tells me how he cares for me,etc. Then to make the problem more confusing my ex has been talking to me again and we have been getting close, nothing has happened But i feel guilty when i do see him as i don't no where i stand with the guy im seeing at the moment. I feel so confused and torn between the two of them. It's making me feel guilty when really i have done nothing wrong as i'm not officially with either of them. Please i need advice as it's doing my head in.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyou are all right. Why am i stressing over two guys who are just making my life awkward! I do love the guy im seeing, but i do love me more. lol. Plus it helped me see that i can have more fun being with the girls and being single today, when i got chatted up by some cute lad at work. Why waste my time with people who don't no what they want and only want me when it suits them. Thanks again peeps.
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reader, PerhapsNot  +, writes (27 November 2011):
 You definitely need to ditch the man that you're in love with. There are A LOT of people with terrible pasts, who still dive into relationships when in love. Sorry, the whole trust issue is just some fancy, "deep" BS. If you're in love, you're in love and want to be with the other person. It sounds more like he doesn't really love you, but he likes you and likes what you provide him with. He won't commit because he doesn't want to.
Only you know why you broke up with your ex. But you can always use your ex to get over the the other guy and then ditch him as well. If you're strong willed, ditch them both and be single. If you're weak and your ex was a douche, use him to get over the other guy.
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reader, mammaboo +, writes (26 November 2011):
 Spend sometime for yourself at the moment. Ten months waiting for this guy to make his mind up is to long. Your ex, well personally, you never go back.Time to find someone new or something new maybe!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2011): If he has trust issues now,you aint the one to fix that are you? He needs someone he can trust so end it and let him move forward. Your ex can keep you company for a bit.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2011): dump both of them for the moment! Really. The guy who cannot figure out your feelings in 10 months maybe will become hard in future. Your ex need to stay ex for the moment. Have a break. Enjoy with your girls. Dont think about this too much. And maybe you will find somebody who really cares and want to be with you.
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