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writes: this is really hard - i've been with my bf for four years now and we have just bought a house together, this in itself is freaking me out. this is the longest relationship i have been in and i'm starting to struggle, but he seems fine with everything.there are no specific problems, i guess i'm just feeling claustrophobic - how can i get back on an even footing? i feel like if he says one thing wrong i will jump on the chance to end the relationship even though i don't want tohelp please! Reply to this Question |
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reader, ariel  +, writes (21 August 2006):
 Be honest with him,tell him that you enjoy living with him but you you feel you are neglecting aspects of your life.When you tell him make it all about you not about him that way he won't feel hurt and think you don't love him or buying the house was a mistake .Tell him your friends have have noticed that you are not calling them anymore and that you would like to lunch with them and catch up.And remember it works both ways if he needs space make sure you give him his too.Living together does not have to be a sentence,you don't have to live in each others pockets 24/7.Just be sensitive its probably not his fault.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2006): well maybe you should stay in one of your friend house for a while. Cos it seems you are not ready to live together.
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