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reader, Midge +, writes (13 September 2007):
 Right, you are setting yourself up for heartache and possibly more grief than you need by still remaining in contact with her.
You are better than that! Leave her alone!!!!
Its hard, we all know that. I have also lost loves in the past, but I got over it by not having any contact with them. Whilst you still have contact with her, you cannot get over her.
She probably told you to leave her alone etc, because she only wants you when it suites her, and thats just not fair.
From everything that you have told me about this girl, I cannot think of one good and nice thing that she has done to you, so why are you going back for more? Leave her be as difficult as what it is! She is no good for you!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI've decided that, as hard as it is, I've got to forget her. I can't keep on like this. As my sister says, every time I come back from meeting her I mope around, because she's hurt me again. I'm just fed up with her constant lying, deceiving, cheating, and hurting me.
I texted her today to ask how she was and she said 'Leave me alone or I'll tell my father'. One text and she tells me that, although I don't know whether that's a scare tactic or not. Was it?
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reader, Midge +, writes (3 September 2007):
You do nothing! You dont want her hassle and grief!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe phoned me this morning at 1.24 after weeks of not talking; when I didn't answer, she texted me saying 'call me, I'm bored and p****d. What can I do?
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reader, Midge +, writes (15 August 2007):
Dont do anything!!!!
Do not write, text or phone her! She will play mind games with you and hurt you again and worse!
Its never easy to get over someone that you think you are in love with. But the fact that she did what she did to you makes it that much harder to get over.
Seriously, dont let her get the better of you and dont contact her no matter how tempting it is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhy am I finding it so hard to get over her? It's so tempting to text or email! Do you think if I write a letter to her it might help? (Strange question I know)
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reader, Midge +, writes (10 August 2007):
As I have said to you before, some people like to see others hurt and they like to do the hurting. It makes them feel so much more important than they are. (Or so they think!)
You havent done anything wrong other than be open and honest with her. She is just bad news unfortunately and someone so vandictive, you just need to stay away from no matter how hard it is!
You will find the right woman for you, who will love YOU for YOU and not what they can get out of you! She will come along some day, just dont beat yourself up if it doesnt happen today. She is out there, waiting for you and she will make you forget all about this little vandictive, sadistic kid! Thats exactly what she is, a child!
Forget her and move on!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhy did she do this to me?
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reader, Midge +, writes (16 July 2007):
Its nothing you have done. She sounds like a very vendictive type of person.
When someone says they want you, it doesnt always revolve around sex, so dont think that all girls are the same.
Just hang in there, the right girl will come around some time! When you are least expecting it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhen she said she wanted me, did she mean she just wanted sex from me instead of just me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhy does every relationship I have with a girl last only 2 months?!Tash lived 3 hrs away - even though we talked and texted, I said I couldnt go up and see her for 2 weeks because of work, and she cheatedand now Jen's cheatedWhat am I doing wrong? And why is it so hard for me to ignore her?...
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reader, Midge +, writes (7 July 2007):
Firstly, if she is so repulsed by your disability, why didnt she just say "thanks but no thanks" to start with. Instead she plays mind games and gives you attitude because you wont jump to her command!
Look, she just isnt worth it! Stop reading her texts, emails etc. Just drop this girl like a hot potato! She doesnt deserve your friendship or trust!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI've got one more post:
She sent me an email a couple of weeks ago, saying she was repulsed by my disability at first, but thought she was getting a second chance (she did, but a second chance to her means sex!). Was that rude, or what?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI did think about asking her why she stood me up.
If I'd have carried on with this relationship, I fear nothing would have changed!
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reader, Midge +, writes (4 July 2007):
Finally the penny has dropped! As difficult as it may be, you have made the best decision ever!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI've decided I'm fed up with being used as a doormat, because if I had have stayed with her, she'd have done it again and again
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reader, beth88 +, writes (2 July 2007):
 This sounds like quite a few girls I went to school with, most of them, I wish I didn't know. They're sneaky, cruel, and overall horrible to watch unsuspecting goodguys get involved with.
The best part of all, they tend to all dislike me, because I ruin their havoc-fun. =D
To be blunt, I'd quit wasting my time on this girl. Block her numbers, don't answer her texts. Just delete them as they come, don't even read them. She's feeding you bollocks by the spoonful, and I'd have turned her out forever ago.
You're in your mid-late 20's? I'd begin dating younger 20 year-olds. You need someone closer to your maturity level. There's few 18-19 year olds that should even be dating, and you need someone that's ready to begin a caring relationship that involves love AS WELL AS lust.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHow does she keep giving you false hope, mate? (if you don't mind telling me)
It was the final straw on Friday
She asked me (or persuaded even) to meet her at Maidstone (20 min train away), got there, got a text five mins later - got to cancel on you, just fainted. I thought ok! I texted back and said I'm here now, might as werll wait for a bit. She said she'd meet me after she's had her lunch. I waited nearly 2 hours (even arranged to meet outside a specific shop), texted her, called her, no reply, just gave up in the end.
My guess is unless they find a person who'm they're not quickly bored by, they move on to the next one
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reader, Midge +, writes (21 June 2007):
I wouldnt worry about it to be honest. It sounds as though you have some kind of stress reaction, but if you are concerned or it persists and doesnt get better, I would suggest that you speak to your doctor sooner rather than later.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't know if this is connected but I have got a very bad throat, feel upset and sometimes depressed. When Tash left me I got a sore throat, when my other friend turned me down I got a sore throat and felt awful, and now Jen, shall I see a doctor to see what's happening?
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reader, Midge +, writes (20 June 2007):
You said it, its the last straw! Call it a day and be done with her! As said before, some people get a kick out of seeing others suffer. They are no better than pond scum! Honestly you are so much better off without her!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe last straw was when she told me she likes hurting men, and she gets some kind of kick out of it! How sick is that!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI am just going to ignore her now and see what she does.
I am going on a date next week with a girl called Sophie; she is 19, so hoperfully this one will go alright
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2007): You're 27 - get a grip of yourself, stop emailing and contacting this girl when you know messed up she is. She obviously has issues, and so do you if you want to keep playing along to them.
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reader, Midge +, writes (18 June 2007):
Firstly, you havent done anything wrong, so her giving you the sob story about "you putting her in hospital", is absolute bull. She shouldnt have told lies and been so deceitfull to start with. Had she been honest and acted her age, this would never have happened, so DO NOT FEEL GUILTY!!!!
Secondly, if she genuinely does have a habit that she has been in rehab before, she should have told you this a long time ago. One should never keep secrets like that from the one you are "supposed to love".
She honestly is now playing the drama card, and I do hope that you are not falling for it!
Even if all this is true, she cannot blame you for her being put into hospital etc as you were only doing the right thing by being honest. That is all anyone can ask for!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI sent that email asking her to act her age, before I knew anytthing about her rehab (if that's true) and now she's just told me she's going to hospital because of 'what I've done'!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe told me yesterday that she acts like a kid because she was on the streets and in rehab. Also, she told me she ejoys hurting men!
I'm just going to ignore her, and carry on with my life.
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reader, Midge +, writes (13 June 2007):
You are finally understanding that this girl is not worth holding on to because she WILL hurt you!!!
This manipulation thing is an old trick that so many people use today, and unfortunately it works on a lot of people. They know they are hurting people, but dont care unless they get what THEY want. To hell with what the other person feels!
I wouldnt waist my time writing to her, because she will probably just start all over again with the "I want you in my life" bit and again you will probably fall for it.
If you do write her, I truly hope that you tell her in no uncertain terms that you want no further communication with her, and that being friends will not be an option as she just uses people.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionLast night she told me she had a boyfriend; I don't know what to think this time, as that email she sent at the weekend was full of 'I can't live without you' and 'I dont wanna lose you and I want you in my life' and then when another (excuse my language f***buddy (poor excuse for a bf) comes along, all of a sudden, she asks me to leave her alone! The hard part is I really like her! Even my friends say she's manipulating me, and trying to get her own way. Also, how childish, going to find another man to have sex with, 3 days after I refused her, and also getting a substitute boyfriend (sexbuddy) after she knew I'd have liked another chance (dont know why!) My friend also said she's trying to mould me into a person I'm not. Basically, she wants a relationship with me when I'm not a 'kid'!I am going to have to write her a firm but fair email explaining these thingsOne more pointer that this isn't working:The friend that helped me through my relationship breakup with Tash - I find it easier to talk to her and she's only a friend! I can joke with her, take the mick, and she doesn't call me a kid! So, either she's been treated so badly by men that she thinks that she will again, or she doesn't consciously know she's doing itWhen she gets upset, she still says its my fault!So, I think I know who the kid here is!
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reader, Midge +, writes (12 June 2007):
Right, I think it is safe to say that the kid here is her!
You are getting yourself too deep into something that is perhaps nothing, and you are gonna hurt yourself!
You have already started having feelings for this girl, and I say girl because that is exactly what she is acting like! A little girl!
I am sorry if this seems rather blunt, but I would hate for you to get hurt by her because she is too immature to see the what she is doing! She is playing mind games with you!
If it were me, I would rather call it quits while I was ahead, saving myself from the hurt later!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOn Friday we had a conversation, I texted her to say that I was thinking of her, and she said I was acting like a kid (since when has a complimentary text meant acting like a kid?!)I left her alone on Saturday (apart from some small romantic texts). On Sunday, she came on MSN, and said I was acting like a kid, then an hour later she apologised.Yesterday morning I texted to say good morning and she said to me 'I bet u dreamt of us having sex; naybe you wont have to wait long hehe'. I texted her later in the day to make sure she was okay.This morning she tells me I'm acting like a kid again! And she doesn't want a relationship with 'a kid' (Thats why she cant hold a relationship down because everyone acts like na child sometimes)Then about an hour or so later, from when she accuses me of acting like a kid, she sends me messages saying 'Can you forgive me?', which I do. Why do I keep on doing it?
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reader, Midge +, writes (11 June 2007):
You have just nailed it on the head then. She obviously doesnt love you, its just lust! If she has a track record of being like that and doing that to her partners, who you honestly want that? Even if just for a short time? Would you want to be taken for a ride by someone that is just going to use you and when they have had what they want from you, chuck you?
Personally I take my relationships very seriously and I wouldnt want to be used by anyone even if just for a short time. I have been there and I didnt like it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI do trust her, but I think thats why she told me her longest relationship was 6 months, cos she has sex with other men (only a guess). And she keeps on saying she loves me; how can she love me when she jumped into bed with another man 3 days after I didnt make out with her?!
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reader, Midge +, writes (9 June 2007):
Well you have actually just answered your own question really. You said that you didnt want her to have sex with other men, which means that you dont trust her. A relationship is based on trust, and it wont be a relationship if you dont trust her 100%.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2007): 6 flags is fun!!! =p ....well, why dont you just ask her what she likes to do!!!! ;-]
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI feel strongly about her, but on the other hand, I donb't want to get hurt six months down the line, or have a girlfriend that may be having sex with other men!
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reader, Midge +, writes (7 June 2007):
Okay, the question here is, "How do you feel about her?"
If you like this girl, then you need to sit down with her and tell her. If you are not sure, then there is your answer.
Unfortunately, there are a lot of people that play the game of sending mixed signals. They seem to get a perverse pleasure out of doing it because it drives their victim crazy and the victim tends to want them even more for it. Which quite frankly, I dont understand!
She is being completely unfair by sending mixed messages, and high sex drive or not, you DO NOT cheat on someone that you say you love and want to be with.
This is now crunch time. You need to make a decision if you want to be with someone that is sending mixed messages, possibly has a tendency to cheat since she says she has a very high sex drive, and very open about having this very high sex drive. Which in my opinion is not something you tell someone on the first, second or third date!
Make a decision and stick to it! You deserve so much more from a relationship!! A relationship is all about knowing exactly where you stand, and you havent a clue where you stand with this girl!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI take all your advice on board, but she is really confusing the hell out of me now!She sent me an email on Saturday saying that she doesn't know what to do anymore, and that she has deep feelings for me but can't explain them, and that when we talk I annoy her sometimes but she misses me and gets upset when I don't talk or chat to her. She says she can't stop thinking about me and when she closes her eyes, I'm there. She even told me she has had erotic dreams about me! She says she's fearful of a relationship because of how she's been treated in the past, but she keeps on saying she loves me.I'm getting mixed signals here and I still don't know what to do!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo, you're right; I don't want a girlfriend that gets upset at me being sarcastic, and pressurizes me.
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reader, Cateyes  +, writes (2 June 2007):
 NO, unless that is what you are looking for, but I don't think you are. I would wait until you meet someone new....and she will come along. Just be patient. This girl doesn't seem very kind to you and you don't want to be with someone who tells you off! Move on to someone else is what I would do. You will find her!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDo I really want a girlfriend who
is paranoid?
just wants sex from me?
who just wants (in her words) sex and a laugh)?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe's also a bit paranoid, then she tells me off for being paranoid
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe's not the easiest person to talk to; one minute she just wants friends, next she wants a relationship! I don't know if there is really another lad on the scene as she admitted to me yesterday (she said she's been beaten up in the past) that she hadn't been abused, and the things she talked about (intimate things)
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reader, Cateyes +, writes (31 May 2007):
I really think you BOTH need to sit down and talk about your relationship and excatly what you want to get from it because I would hate to see you get hurt by her. It saddens me though to hear her say she wouldn't have done what she did because you didnt' "make out" with her. I would "think" if she was a lady, she wouldn't be trying to rush in to it AND she would respect you for not doing so. Confused here!!! Like I said though, have a talk with her and find out what she expects from you and visa versa, and remember....the number one thing that also ruins a relationship is not communicating where each understands one another fully. Best Wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe also said last Thursday if I'd made out with her, she would have stayed with me, but I reckon that was a lie
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe did change her mind a few times about whether she wanted just friends or more, she decided she wanted more, she texted me to say she loved and wanted me, but she did tell me she hurts people because she has a high sex drive. She also used to get paranoid when I didn't text her for a few hours, then she told me off for being paranoid! I wanted her so much, but I don't want to end up getting used
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe did change her mind a few times about whether she wanted just friends or more, she decided she wanted more, she texted me to say she loved and wanted me, but she did tell me she hurts people because she has a high sex drive. She also used to get paranoid when I didn't text her for a few hours, then she told me off for being paranoid! I wanted her so much, but I don't want to end up getting used
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reader, Cateyes +, writes (30 May 2007):
First of all...NOTHING was your fault as I see it. I really think you have been quite the gentleman to her and apparently, she cannot appreciate that. For her being 18 with a high sex drive, that kinda tells me she might have been around the block a few times and probably not were you were looking for. (at least for a real relationship) Any woman would and should respect how you have been to her and would even understand that you have shown respect towards her. I clearly do not think she is the ONE for you. She could surprise me, but from what you have said, I don't think so. I would try meeting a new lady. One that will appreciate you for the nice young man that you are. I know you are anxious to have sex, but you know, life is not all about sex. It's clearly getting to know the person you are with and letting the relationship grow and see where it takes you.
I really believe you will meet someone new again. Don't let this get to you. Anyone who clearly cheats on you is not someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.
Good Luck in meeting someone new...YOU WILL!! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe had our second meeting on Thursday, after which she texted me and said she was upset with me cos I didn't make out with her.We arranged (I wanted to as well) to have sex on Friday afterooon (she said she has a high sex drive). She texted me yesterday saying how she was looking forward to it; however, this morning, I found out (she told me) that she was cheating on me. I can't help thinking that this was my fault.
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reader, Midge +, writes (23 May 2007):
With intimacy, so long as you take it slow, and dont rush all the experiences you are going to learn about, it will be great! Its when you rush things that it soon dies and isnt interesting for either party.
Just go slow!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe's also quite sexually experienced, and (at nearly 28) I have never had sex. I'm a bit nervous of that too (when we come to do it)
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reader, Midge +, writes (23 May 2007):
Just remember, soft and gentle!! Trust me its like riding a bike, you never forget. And if she is right for you, you will never want to forget that first kiss!
Dont be nervous, just relax and enjoy the experience!!
Go get 'em tiger!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe's coming over on Sunday and she wants to kiss me - major nerves!
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reader, Cateyes +, writes (23 May 2007):
I am SO happy for you!!! Best of Luck with her and I really do hope things work out for you. Just remember to take it slow....don't rush in to everything all at once.
Take Care and enjoy your new relationship!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionshe keeps on sending me romantic texts lol
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reader, Midge +, writes (22 May 2007):
Absolutely brilliant! I am over the moon for you!
Enjoy it, and have fun!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe's been texting me all weekend to say how she wants to see me again!
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reader, Midge +, writes (21 May 2007):
Perhaps her family will be as open to the age difference as my parents were. I was 23 and my boyfriend was 33. They loved him and still do.
Dont let the age thing interfere with what could potentially be a wonderful blossoming romance!!
I am so glad that the date went well! Good for you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHer mum wants to meet me and she wants to meet my family as well! Because Friday was our first meeting, I didn't really like to call it a date, so next time, she wants me to ask her out! She texted me last night, asking when are we seeing each other again!
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reader, Cateyes +, writes (19 May 2007):
It sounds as things went very well for you both!! I'm glad for you. Just remember to take things slow and let things progress on their own, don't be in a rush as this to me would probably "kill" the friendship you two have so far. In my opinion, the age difference you two have should not be a factor, however, it might being if you two wanted to go out to a club for drinks. However, I would suggest still going to places that do not involve being around drinks so she can feel even more comfortable with you...in other words, it's like saying, that's not all your about, know what I mean? Just keep going places where you two can learn/talk to each other, have fun where ever that might be, and always give her a smile so she knows that your interested in her. Thanks for the update and I hope things truly progress for you both and you two become happy in love!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, I've just got back from my date. It was our first meeting so I was a bit nervous. She got a lift to my place from Eynsford Station (well, to Otford Station). We basically had a big walk around one of the routes in the field, down the footpath, and through the field again, and then I took her back to the station, where I waited with her til her train came.
I wanted the date (or first meeting) to be longer, but somehow, it was better to keep it short first time round.
She told me she had been beaten up a lot by ex's in the past, so she's sensitive in that way, but, even though she may be my first gf, I am willing to wait and be patient and help her overcome and fears she has.
I don't know whether she liked me in that way, or not (she said she did by text and by the way that she was speaking to her mum about me) but I would like to see her again. We have a lot in common.
Maybe I'm worrying too much (especially as she is my first girlfriend).
She's also worried that my family will be concerned about the 9 year age difference!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionToday is the day of my date, and I'm surprisingly calm! Any last minute tips?
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reader, Midge +, writes (15 May 2007):
You have to remember that not all woman are the same. We dont all just think about looks and what we can get from the bloke. There are a lot of us out there that think about more important things, like how you make us feel about ourselves and how you treat us.
Being open and honest with her will play a big role in this. You need to tell her how you feel and be honest about your situation. If you dont, when she does find out she will feel like you cant trust her.
If she is the one for you, trust me, she will stick by you!
As for kissing her, and having sex, take one step at a time. If its meant to be, it will happen in time. There is no point rushing something so special and important! Its something you will remember for the rest of your life, so dont rush it. Even if you feel you want to, dont rust it!
You will know when the time is right! Take it slow and things will happen in its own due course!
But trust her to like you for YOU! Not for what you can give her, or your looks or your money. FOR YOU!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI will; there is a problem on my part, I have been totally honest with her about everything: my epilepsy, my cerebral palsy, and (this one was hard to admit) that I have never really snogged a girl or had sex before. She says she likes me for who I am. I have got a bit of a anxious feeling about this, even though, when I told her, she said we'd take it slowly
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reader, Midge +, writes (14 May 2007):
Let us know how you get on. I think she'll really enjoy that!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know that she likes walking a lot, so, Friday I have sausage and chips, and I have a lovely field at the bottom of my road which is especially for walkers, so we are going to get the food and eat it on a bench in the field, and then go on one of the many walks, then we may go down the pub to relax with a drink. She actually said that's romantic for a first date!
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reader, Cateyes +, writes (12 May 2007):
I have to admit, Midge said everything that I would be telling you....and you know excatly what your limitations are, however, you will never know until you try. AND BELIEVE ME, I WOULD TRY TO DO IT..NEVER SAY NEVER OR I CAN'T DO SOMETHING!! Another thing I thought about would be going to an amusement park. Were I live, we used to have what we called Astroworld, which had tons of roller coaster rides, shows, and games..all in one big place. Again, to me, it's all about doing something that would be fun and exciting and your still getting to know the person you are with....then have a relaxing evening at a wonderful restaurant!! Good Luck and have fun no matter what you do!!
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reader, Midge +, writes (11 May 2007):
You may be disabled, but you can do ANYTHING YOU WANT TO. Call up the co karting place beforhand and tell them that you have a disability. They should be up to speed on various disabilities and should be able to accomodate without any problems. I know my local go karting place does have facilities to accept all types of disabilities.
You may not be able to go as fast as everyone else, but your partner will be just as thrilled that you are pushing the boundaries.
Just because you have a disability doesnt mean that you cant do things, it just means you have to take it just that little bit slower. But you will get there in the end!
My company regularly takes their staff go karting to boost moral. One of the guys has a serious spinal injury and I tell you, he gives it all he's got!!
Just call in advance and make sure that they have the facilites to accomodate. If not, think about something else, like go karting that will get your adrenaline going!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThis may sound silly, but a disabled person (me) will be able to go go-karting wont I?
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reader, Midge +, writes (11 May 2007):
I think that taking her go karting would be GREAT!!! Give you both an adrenalin boost! Always good on a date!
I think that she will love it! I know I would!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt won't matter, (well it does to an extent), I've got cerebral palsy, which makes me a bit wobbly on my feet. We could go go-karting though, or (this is a big sacrifice considering I hate the team!), I could take her to see a Man Utd Match
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reader, Cateyes +, writes (11 May 2007):
I know this may seem kinda weird, but...I would do something that either neither of you know how to do or haven't done in a long time. Something that is fun where both of you can laugh and have something to talk about afterwards. For instance, can both of you ice skate or roller skate? How about go cart riding for adults? Put-put golf? I don't know what all is there/available where you live, but where I live, there are so many places to go to just have some FUN! And that is what I would start off with first. Then, yes, there is the walk along the beach, the zoo, picnic in the park, romantic restaurants...are there any on a big boat - we have some that's why I ask and there not that expensive or maybe a restaurant with a great playing band to listen to and some dancing. The sky is the limit...but just have some fun so both of you can laugh and then also have that time so both of you can really spend quality time to get to know one another and talk. Good Luck and have fun!!
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reader, Midge +, writes (10 May 2007):
Depending on what type of girl she is, depends on where to take her.
If she is the romantic type, the chances are she just wants to spend time with you, and as already said, a walk in the country and a picnic is always a good choice.
If she is the sporty type, perhaps something fun that involves a little competition. I had a boyfriend take me to a country club on our first date. We had a nice romantic meal and then landed up getting roped into playing a game of tennis. Not romantic but it definately got the blood pumping and we had an absolutely amazing time.
It really just depends on what she is into. If you are unsure, a walk in the country near some botanical garden and perhaps a little waterfall is always a safe bet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2007): Just take her out, bike riding, walk. Go to the mall, or to the movies. There are a lot of things to do girls like to be alone with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2007): Cinema is always a good place !!!!!
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