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writes:I need help..... Ive always been in a realtionship and have been single for a year now had loads of fun but now I have met 2 great guys and I dont know who to pick!!! They are both great in differnt ways but I cant carry on dating the 2 of them its not far on either of them.The first one is lovely and caring, always wants to spend time with me, would love to get serious but I dont really fancy him! The second was I have known for years but have always been woth someone... He makes me laugh and we have a really funny time together but I feel deep down he would cheat even though he cares about me...See I always say girls moan there are never no nice men out there and now I have found one I feel drawn to the bad one more why is tha? All my friends say go for guy number 1, he would be gutted if he found out, but something is telling me to go for number 2 even though I know we would never trust eachother... I have never done this before and have always been in a realtionship since i was 16 im 24!please help Im so confused Reply to this Question
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave  +, writes (8 February 2011):
Neither is the blunt answer.You can't go out with someone you don't fancy and you can't go out with someone you don't trust to stay faithful.Both will fail.Wait until someone you feel you will be completely comfortable with.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (8 February 2011):
 You cannot just decide to date someone even though your feelings for him are faint at best so, 'guy number 1' is out. If you cannot trust a partner, your relationship will be unstable and hectic, full of worry more than anything else. In then end, if you date someone you cannot trust you may leave the relationship with a haunting suspicion of everyone else you might date afterwards. 'Guy number 2' is definitely out.
I would not suggest getting into a relationship for the sake of getting into a relationship. Stop looking for a relationship until you find someone you can trust and who you actually feel strongly towards.
I hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2011): Hello,
Number two you wouldn't trust eachother? Trust is a must to make a relationship work.
Number 1 I don't really fancy him? I think you answered your question. Neither.
If number one you don't really fancy him, and number two you'd have issues with trust. Then choose you.
Good luck
:-)
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