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I'm curious about sex and want to try masturbation, but I cant seem to get myself off!

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Question - (10 August 2009) 2 Answers - (Newest, 10 August 2009)
A female United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

I am entering an awkward stage in my pre-sex life, now that I'm curious about what sounds like a mind blowing experience that a good majority seem to enjoy. My goal is to wait until marriage, but I don't want *it* to hurt, so I've tried masterbation.

Problem is I can't seem to relax enough to get off, because I guess I'm just one of those people who like to stay busy. I've tried watching porn, listening to music, and have fantasized about different sexual situations, but nothing happens.

Any tips?

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A female reader, WDE123 United States +, writes (10 August 2009):

When I masturbate I dont even really put my fingers inside. It is something that you naturally just will learn to do. I can only do it on my stomach. some people can only do it on their back. Tryy different ways.

As far as preparing yourself I don't think masturbating is the best thing. It mostly is about getting to know your "buttons" what gets you off. Don't worry sex the first time is only a bit painful (for some more than others) But is goes away quickly. If you are having sexx with someone you love and trust it will feel right no matter what.

You know what might actually help though, Using tampons instead of pads.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2009):

Here's a tip - don't try so hard! Masturbation isn't something you should force on yourself but something you do when you feel the need to. If you can't seem to get in the mood then maybe you aren't ready to do it.

And about it hurting when you do have sex - you're waiting until you're married, right? Are you planning on getting married next week? If not then what is the rush? Of all the things a teenager should worry about I think this ranks fairly low.

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