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writes:I dont want to seem naive or typical when i ask this but i have a sex question. My boyfriend wants to have sex and im not opposed to the idea but im scared about the pain. He's an amazing guy and hasnt pressured me into anything but i know he wants to have sex. i love him a lot so id be willing but ive heard the stories about the girls who couldnt walk the next day and im scared of that being me! Help! Reply to this Question
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reader, unique-angel  +, writes (3 February 2009):
I totally understand your situation.
But all my girl friends say it does really hurt at the begining but slowly after a bit it'll be the best feeling ever and is worth it.
If your b/f knows your a virgin then he will be as gentle as possible anyway. Just have some relaxin musicon the back ground and feel relaxed
good luck xx
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (3 February 2009):
 Lots and lots of foreplay, make sure you are in the mood and don't feel bad about using lube.
Take it slowly, and for gods sake make sure you use a condom!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2009): It's seriously not that bad. I've heard of that too, but all my girlfriends have said that they actually really enjoyed their first times, regardless of the apprehensions they seemed to have. I felt the same way and I was quite young, and I don't think it helped that I was really nervous so I'm sure I tensed up. It hurt for a few minutes, but once I sort of got the hang of it, I enjoyed it. And it didn't hurt the next day.However, if you're a virgin and your boyfriend really wants to have sex and you're "willing", maybe you aren't ready. Sex can be a really amazing thing and can truly bring two people closer together, but if you aren't ready, don't try to force it. You want to make sure that this is the right guy and that you are 100% into the idea, not just passive, as you seem to be.
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