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writes:My wife and I have been together for 3 years now but I keep thinking she is going to find someone better than me so I am constantly thinking about it I have gotten to the point were I am now questioning her constantly and asking a lot of questions about What she is doing and we're she is and how long she has been there I am going fucking crazy I need someone's advice how the hell do I get over these insecurity issues?!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2010): You absolutely need a good marital and personal counselor, and you need to tell them exactly what you just wrote.
Do not worry about the cost of the counselor, find one you can talk with and do it.
Insecurity has roots in our lives, and it is devastating to people. In fact, insecure people are likely to cheat on their spouses.
You need to tell her, and you need to tell the counselor, and you need to work on yourself. This is not her, this is you. She may have actions that she can change that will make you feel less insecure, but she isn't the problem from what you have said.
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reader, whiteelephant +, writes (13 October 2010):
Choose something you like. Get really, really good at it. Devote yourself to it. I personally like the video game starcraft. When I win money from a tournament its awesome. This process of developing excellence will spill over into other areas of your life
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reader, eternallyinfinite  +, writes (13 October 2010):
I suggest that you ask yourself why are you so insecure? If you don't think you are good enough, you should try to improve yourself as much as you are able to. For example, if you aren't the most fit, then go exercise; if you think you're boring, then try new things, etc ....
I think you can only try to be the best that you can be, and if you wife leaves you, then you can be assured that at least you did the best.
You might try speaking to a councellor to examine why you're insecure and what you can do about it
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