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writes:Hi!Well this isn't my first time to write on here, but I've never got to the bottom of my problem.I'm in my twenties, and I'm in total love with another woman in her thirties. Please don't question if this love, because I couldn't describe it, but believe me - I feel it. She means everything to me, and I can't stop thinking about her, ever.She's a close friend, and we get on so well, but it gets messy because I haven't the courage to tell her how I truly feel. I can't say for certain how she might feel about me, but she has said things that made me think "what does she mean by that?"... For example, saying "where would I be without you" or putting kisses on the end of an sms - (Which she normally wouldn't do)...Basically I'm going through the toughest time of my life, because not knowing is killing me inside. I feel so lonely, and I can't help but imagine what it must be like to spend every day with a person that you love unconditionally. If anyone could help me, advise me, or just tell me their stories, I'd really appreciate it.Please help me.Thank you all xxx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2008): It sounds like a difficult situation, I'll bet you don't want to say anything, in case it ruins the friendship and you couldn't bear to be without her, but loving her so much churns you up inside and you just want to be close. I'm sorry I don't have any advice but to play it by ear and I hope it all works out.
I have a similar situation, I fell for a woman, quite a bit older, she means the world to me, and when I thought i lost her, I just died inside. She lives on the other side of the world :(
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reader, katatonik  +, writes (3 December 2008):
 Maybe this question is too obvious, but is she lesbian/bi as well? Does she know that you are? If the answer to either question, or both, is no, then her comments are almost certainly intended in a friendly way and nothing more. On the other hand, if she is attracted to women and knows that you are, you are then free to read more into what she says. I'd talk to her about your feelings, if you think that she may reciprocate them. Worst case scenario, she says she doesn't think of you in that way and you are right back to where you are now...pining for her but can't have her. But at least if you know one way or the other you'll be able to either start something with her or move on. Good luck =]
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