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writes:Hi, i need help with the ex factor. My ex and i split a year ago. We were together for 6yrs and we had a butiful son together. The break up tore me to pieces bcoz i love this man dearly but it wasn't working as he seemed to want something else so i let him go. It was the hardest thing i have eva had to do especially bcoz we have a son. Anyway we still see each other as he has his son every week end. He has a new girl friend. I am not a petty person, i am polite to both ov them even tho it kills me to see them together. I deal with it. The thing is that i am very close to his family. I live with his sister and my ex is best frends with my brother. We are still very much involved thru our family' and our son wich is making it hard for me to move on. I love his family. His sister invited me to her birthday and my ex and his girlfriend are going to be there. I don't know how im going to handle seeing them together around his family. His girlfriend has taken my place. I feel the loss. I have to go, his sister is a good friend ov mine but i don't know if i can handle the sadness. Is it to soon. Help me plz. Any tips appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2009): Do u have any close male friends? Perhaps they could accompany you to the party.Then you would have someone to talk to if you start to feel a bit pushed out
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (7 April 2009):
 first of all i applaud you for being so brave about the whole situation like the way you're handling things!second of all that's fair enough you're going to find it hard to move on but as you say you're all pretty much kept linked together.i'd say just go to the party show him you're not bothered by him and his girlfriend i know it'll be difficult but you'll do it! you will get to where he is and maybe you guys can also become friends maybe your love for him will be more friend love as time goes on.you just need to go to the party and be there for your friend to celebrate her birthday and she hasn't taken your place the fact that the family still love you to pieces they'll always remember you and always see you whereas her they won't if things don't work out just think of it like that you've always got the connection and special bond with the family whereas she won't she will never take your place the family have known you for years and you're mates with his sister you're always going to be connected to the family she is just another girl once she is gone or something like that you'll still be there because your still connected so don't feel she's taking your place just feel like she is joining and as i say if things don't work out she won't be connected as much with the family you have more ties with the family than she does you have a son aka nephew grand son so on and so forth you're friends and just all connected.and it is very great to know you share the custody of your child so he does get the best of both worlds.i hope this helps and hope it works out for you let us know if you need anymore help :)
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