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writes: hi... i am in a very happy relationship for past 4 years.. everything is just right. I met another guy, a married guy on a trip n had great fun wit him!! After d trip, telephonic conversations started(bf knws).. thenn started d phone sex, n i am hooked... i only think bou fuckin this new guy.. very addictive.. n we continue to have phone sex day and night.. its a weird feeling!!i dont even feel guilty.... m al in love wit my bf as well... m askin for too much right?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2010): i want to make myself clear. i am not condoning cheating in any way. i am not promoting dishonesty. and i may not know where to draw the line. but i do know that if you make one mistake, it causes huge problems. whether as your bf he deserves to know...i have mixed emotions. the situation i am familiar with involved a married couple and inappropriate texting. She felt bad and told her hubby...thinking that she needed accountabilty. now some 8 months later things are only beginning to get back to normal. it has been a terrible burden to the husband and the wife didnt feel a bit better either. she has stated that if she had it to do over again she would not tell. I know this because the woman was me. in my case there was no physical contactm so every case may be different and i understand what Eyes and Accountable are saying. .. it could be that they are right...but not in every case.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (8 March 2010):
 Not murdering someone who pisses you off is the best policy. By your reasoning, murder is the second best policy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2010): never tell your bf. It causes so much damage and fixes nothing. And never do it again. Mal
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reader, Accountable  +, writes (8 March 2010):
 Your boyfriend isnt happy with the real you, he's happy with the you that he thinks you are. I think he deserves to know - you owe him that much, surely, after months of sneaking around behind his back and betraying him in the most abhorrent fashion. You talk about marriage with him - great, yet another ill-conceived marriage destined to fail because one of the partners is being deliberately dishonest from the outset.
If you loved him at all you'd tell him what you did and let him make his own mind up. My opinion, at least.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (8 March 2010):
It's disquesting to say the least.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionQ thanks for ur words! I have had moments where I wd have told my bf, but am a woose.. I don’t think I can have him leave me.. weak I know..selfish I know..easy way out I know.. but I want him to be with me. If I tel him, its over I know for sure..
Maybe by not telling him, I am givin him d happiness he deserves.. he is happy wit me, I have been wit him.. n I knew it al along that my life is with my bf.. tats where my happiness is.. how wil I correct it is too soon to find out.. starters wd be to go back on being honest…
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAffair was from Oct – Feb, n no it wasn’t worth d shit i gave to my rela wit my guy. I am not being bitter bou my “affair”, I just knew it al along so did the married guy.. we use to have a lot of discussion bou it, knew it right from d start but continued to talk.. we reached to a conclusion tat we were vain n insecure wit ourselves, that’s y lukin out for attention.. We had sex only once, phone sex was more often (we stayed in diff cities).. he n I aren’t really friends, not talking works. Will jus courier him, somethn I owe, that’s al.. I didn fal in love but became good friends, prob it was more of friendship, considering so less sex involved in it.. I did like him being around wil not deny tat..il jus wish him well..
My rela is where it was before, movin towards marriage now… though m tryin to hold on to present moments, tryin to figure out my part in the rela.. wen I mentiond thankfully no VISIBLE damage, I meant precisely tat emotional damage was caused bothways, thankfully it didn’t reach to visible level. It wasn’t easy for both of us, trust me.. its not al hunky dory.. we were at fault, we are at fault n we always wil be
No I wil not have any affair with any other married guy, its not a plan of my life to eye married men...
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2010): Your affair was from Oct to March. Was it worth it. What hav you learnt, if anything? Do you tell your bf that you had been having sex with a married man. Where does your current relationship stand now. If the opportunity presents itself again will you have an affair with another MM. You say no VISIBLE DAMAGE, but what about the emotional scars, if any. Did you fall in love with this man. Does your bf even feature in all of this. Are you still. In contact with this man. You do know this had disaster written all over it right from the start. What do you want to correct and how would you go about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionit's over.. thankfully with no "VISIBLE" damage.. gotta correct a lotta things now..
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009): You are so blasé and so heartless with your affair. You care NOTHING for your bf of 4 years and asking you to put yourself in his wife’s shoes is well, almost blasphemous, so I wouldn’t dare suggest this. You are now used to another mans d*ck, you are not going to throw your married man away in a months time, in fact you will continue to lie and cheat and destroy. That in essence is what affairs do. Anything else and you are perhaps plain naive (which i seriously doubt) or just stupid. Since you want to be with your married man why not release your bf of 4 years, surely you cannot be so selfish to want the married man and the bf as well. i think your bf deserves a decent moral woman to be his exclusively instead of someone loose running around with another man ( lets not forget that it is a married one at that) . will you ever learn from this affair. An emphatic NO!!! what is so alarming is that you do not even feel guilty for your wrongdoing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi Anon..
The original ques u have read so i cant say much.. It did start with flirting, phone sex and then ultimately last month sex.. the whole thing (including al above mentioned activities) has 2 month duration.. withso much cheatin in my life.. i dont think i need to lie here for this!!
None of us plan to leave any of our respective partners or even get involved emotionally.. its basically friendship+sex..i knw it doesnt show me in any better light!!
actualy there was no ques asked but was jus a forum for me to spell out wat was happ!! the site made a ques and set it up.. Whatever we are doin, we are doin with full knowledge of how wrong it is, how hurtful it wil be wen those we love find out and how we try to not let tat happen.
This wil not even last long.. prob another month n we wil try to go back to our settled lives(Marriage talks wil start soon)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2009): “its not physical yet, n i dont want it to be physical(tempting but NO)..” contradictions, contradictions, Lalitha. You CLAIMED prophetically that you will not cheat yet there is information to prove other wise: on the 18 Nov 2009, “Why do women sleep with married men? A female reader, lalita +, writes (24 November 2009):i flirted, then slept with a married man.. its been more than 2 months since it all started.. we talk a lot - about sex, our lives, cheating.. Our individuals lives are perfect - me with a perfect bf.. he wit a wonderful wife.. but we still continue, with no emotions.. i knw he sleeps with his wife n m not jealous...neither is he.. nor do i want him to leave his wife..”This latest post reveals that you were indeed having sex with this married man you just met when you posted this question, asking the aunts for guidance and assistance! So to the good aunts and uncles your time and effort was actually wasted when WE all responded to the good ‘lady’. So if we all do the maths the good OP was actually having sex with her married man when she posted here on DC on the 14th Oct 2009.One thing i do hate is lies- and it is evident here that the OP fabricated the truth. I just hate it when the aunts and uncles here on DC are hoodwinked and taken as fools. You can fool some people, some of the time but not all people all of the time – has never been more true.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2009): Either way, even if the people are telling you not to.. thats not what you are going to do. You and this man have already crossed the line, in my views when I found out my husband was cheating the sex was hurtful, but the texting killed me...either way you are going to screw this man or have already ...
GO AHEAD open your legs to him...both are already cheats..and hopefully he will leave his wife and be with you, if the sex is that great..but for the time it is all talk,,,anyways..you belong together...
Best of Love... ;) Hope it was worth it..
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2009): You been told its wrong and nobody here is gonna encourage you or support what your doing and none of them are interested in a point you made.I agree. It is very addictive.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni never said u(q1605) were judgin me.. that was a general statement.. thanks for ur response!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni tel u what.. i Have been judged on this i know.. and i accept all ur judgements.. To me i have been taking this guy as porn for me.. Like guys (married/engaged/single) - ALL watch/read porn, i have converstaions with Porn.. its not physical yet, n i dont want it to be physical(tempting but NO).. its PORN for me
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2009): can't you get it in your head HE IS MARRIED. this should be enough to make you run a mile away from him. have you not heard of marital fidelity. you want to cheat with this married man. i don't know who is worse you or him.
i read your follow up. makes it worse. you think nothing of cheating. there is no hope for you
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2009): You're nuts...he is married!! Put yourself in his wife's shoes. What if your BF was doing this to you. Just stop.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (14 October 2009):
yep you are asking too much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2009): 'i dont even feel guilty.... " that says it all about you. nothing the aunts say here will make any difference so i reserve the right not to judge you any further.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni think the site misinterpreted d question.. ia m not looking for anything from this married man in terms of emotion...just sex!! its not physical yet, its more to do with mental cheating... its somethin i keep thinkin bou..
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