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writes:Over the last few months I've developed a crush on my boss. (we are both women, she's straight and married. i practically straight and married.) And, I'm finding myself really obessing about her. Can't stop thinking...it feels like it's all i think about. and, i really want it to STOP! any suggestions?
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reader, Psychology101 +, writes (11 March 2010):
Dont listen to the posted who said to Focus on GOD that is just NUTS! you have feelings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2010): Don't do anything the last poster said.
Lets not bring religion into this.
You sir/madam should be ashamed of yourself. Using someone vulnerabilities to push your religion onto them.
To the OP.
The strength you need to overcome this lies within you. You need no books about myths and legends of any kind.
Flynn 24
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (8 March 2010):
 Try and replace those thoughts with more positive, constructive thoughts.
Tell yourself that you are straight and married and it is impossible or a sin to even to think about it.
Each time those negative thoughts come into your mind, repeat the above positive thoughts until they stop.
You can focus on God , read the Bible and pray to Him for guidance.
You could minimize contacts with her and refocus your attentions on your priorities in life.
If nothing works, then you will have to remove yourself from that place .
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reader, veronika  +, writes (8 March 2010):
 Being married or being in a relationship does not mean you cannot have feelings for anybody else. Just don't act on them. You see this crush as a negative thing, but it doesn't have to be. Usually, you can't help who you like, just accept it. You can't make it stop just overnight.
If you stop obsessing over how 'bad' it is then it will probably fade a bit. Just stop over-thinking it. Go with the flow. Have your crush, but don't go too far so you cheat on your husband.
And about the straight thing, well, having one crush on a women may not necessarily make you bisexual or a lesbian. Sometimes people who identify with one 'type' of sexuality may deviate from it once in a while. It's perfectly okay and normal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2010): You are married. That is all that matters. Not your sexual preferences, not your feelings for your boss.
The fact you are married basically says you CAN'T cheat. You CAN'T feel for someone else. Not without dishonouring the marriage.
The only real way you can get over it, is to ignore it. Try to avoid ANY situations where you are alone with your boss. Because with prying eyes around, you won't take any risks.
Your feelings here are irrelevant. You have a marriage. And IT is all that matters, and whats best for IT.
Flynn 24
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