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writes: So I've been with my girl friend for a year. Everything with me and her is pretty good. I really love her. However, my ex has recently been coming around trying to get me back. The problem is, my ex is a guy and I never told my girl friend that I'm bisexual. I know that I should have told her, but I've been scared about how she'd react. Now that my ex is coming around, I don't know what to do. Should I tell her now or not? I feel like even if she's okay with my bisexuality, she'll be mad I didn't tell her sooner. I'm not sure what I'm supposed to do. How do you think she'll feel/react if I tell her now? Help please?
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reader, mongo5888  +, writes (3 November 2010):
 It is a tough situation to be in. I am bi and I have very strong desires for certain men that I know (who have mutual desires, which makes it more difficult) but I am in a relationship with a woman. I have told her and she thinks it's great, but at the same time we still have certain issues. When my gays and I get together we all playfully flirt. Now even though it's just how we are, nothing serious, she still doesn't understand that. It bothers her and to a point I can understand where she is coming from. That is why I am in a dilemma at the moment as well. I wish you the best my friend and feel free to drop me a line if you want to get anything off your chest. Keep your head up. ^_^
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reader, canUkeepAsecret?  +, writes (8 October 2010):
 that anonymous guy is a dick!!
The truth is always best! You should tell her.
What you need to understand is that if she doesnt like the fact that youre bisexual...no matter how much you might like her...there is no point in being with someone who doesnt understand you!!
Yeah she might be mad...but she can only be mad for a little while...just tell her that you were scared of how she would react and again...if she is understanding enough then you know shes a keeper ;)
and if you dont want to get back with your ex then just tell him to fuck off haha :)
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reader, AvgGuy1 +, writes (6 October 2010):
 Well... only YOU know for sure whether she'll accept your bisexuality or not. If she doesn't then you really only have two options... lie to her... or break up. It also sounds like you might still be attracted to or even want to be with your ex. If not then you need to tell him to back off and to respect your desires - whether you decide to stick with your girlfriend or find some other guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2010): The term bi sexual confuses me. i know a homosexual can be committed to another man and a hetero sexual can be committed to a woman.
It seems to me that a bisexual cannot be committed to anyone unless they have detachable breast and penis.
Yes you should have told her. But you did not because you knew her charactor. So rather you find someone who can accept you as you are. You forced a relationship with a lie. You knew the answer before you posted.
no sympathy for you
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