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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I'm interested in this guy who I kind of knew when I was in high school. We didn't go to the same school, but I knew him and his family from church. He's been out of state for a while and just got back for the summer. I'm finding it difficult to make conversation with him though, even small talk. I'm actually having trouble making conversation with anyone as of late. I don't know what's wrong with me. With the school year over I'm a little shut off from everyone I guess. Between church and my new job as a part time nanny, I haven't been out much. How do I improve my conversation skills and get used to talking to people my age again? I can't believe it has gotten so bad. I feel as if I'm tied up. I've never been good at making conversation but things are especially bad now. The guy I like approached me yesterday and the conversation fell almost immediately. Help please! Reply to this Question
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reader, softballplaya +, writes (25 June 2008):
 okay. I see the problem right off the bat.
your putting too much thought into it and thats the problem. A conversation flows easy if your not trying too hard, think about something you both like and play it from there. Dont be afraid to socialise and enjoy communicating, its what we girls do (lol) If you feel tied up then move around your schedule and make time for yourself and other people to enjoy company and let the convo flow. the best conversation is one where you all agree. For instance if the guy or the group likes baseball, your best bet is too agree. Its not always the best route if you really dislike something and are opinionated but you dont wanna be the odd one out ya know? Dont try so hard, make some small talk. Some small talk topics are-hows life, hows summer, hows your family, whats new etc...the list goes on. Just pick an interesting topic and play it from there. =]
take care && good luck=]
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