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writes:I'm a woman in my 40s, been separated for a year now and when I date, I tend to go for the younger guys. Ages range from 27 to 35 and then I had several really sweet dates with a 19 year old. A lot of people would think it's not right, and some of my friends have said I should stop doing this and stick to older guys, but they don't really attract me, too stuck in their ways and demanding. I know the younger ones will want to have a family and I already have one, so these relationships won't last forever, but until I find someone my age who has a young spirit, I quite enjoy this. Anyhow - I don't want to feel bad about this - I am not a pervert or a seductress - and my youngest friend really likes my company - we can't meet up very often, but talk a lot in between. We can't date in public, and especially where I live, a small town with very narrow minded people.Is this acceptable or do I need to get some counselling? I sometimes lose touch with reality... Reply to this Question
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (15 June 2007):
 You're doing great, madam.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh, and we practise safe sex!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok, thanks - the 19 year old has the usual string of girlfriends and likes to talk about his love/hate problems to me - I am a confidente/lover figure - but we've talked about our situation, and he just likes the thrill, feeling quite good about himself being able to please a woman who's (in his eyes) so experienced... but I don't feel he wants to go any further than this. It would be the last thing on my mind to hurt him.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (15 June 2007):
I don't think you need counselling, and I don't think you need to worry about this being acceptable either. To me, you are very clear about what you want for the moment. You don't want to commit to anyone, at least for the moment. I'm sure your dates 27 to 35 years old know this, too. The 19-year old is having the time of his life. My only concern would be what you would do if this young guy wanted "more". Sometimes young people may not "get it".
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