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writes: This is my first real relationship. I'm 19 hes 20, and we went out on our second date, last night. We made out for a long time and it was hot:P I am a virgin and he is not at all. I know he wants to have sex and I want to too but I don't want to kill the relationship. He isn't pressuring me or anything but I don't want to like give it up and then its like over u know? I like being a semi-challenge. So my question is how long should I wait to sleep with him. I know everyone's like "when ur ready" but I am ready now. lol but I don't want to be another skank he just bangs then dumps. I don't think hes that kind of guy but u know the whole virgin thing has him intrigued. So does anyone have a good rule of thumb for having sex with a man that they want to be more than a casual relationship??? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2009): If you don't want to be another skank on this guy's hit list, then maybe you shouldn't hook up with a guy who hits a list of skanks.
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reader, Blue_Angel0316  +, writes (24 February 2009):
 Hon if you have waited this long, what is another year or two? Give the relationshp time to grow and don't rush into the more intimante part of it. Sex is something to be shared between two people who really care about and love one another. It may seem an bit old fashioned but waiting for marriage still is a good idea! This is espcially true with the diseases and the lack of respect for sexual partners these days.
Just because you give yourself away to this guy DOESN'T mean that you WILL ALWAYS be with him. By maintaining your self respect you will ultimately gain more of his. That is unless he is after one thing! You say he isn't ready, so that should be a dead giveaway to WAIT! If you pressure him to have sex he may decide you don't messure up to his expectations. If he loves you, YOU COULD BLOW IT BIGTIME@ If you love him IT REALLY ISN'T WORTH THE CHANCE! I promise you that if you wait and he is the one, it will only make things better. Only when the time is right will it be RIGHT!
It sounds like you care about your new guy alot and from the early stages it is much too soon to even be thinking about having sex with him! PERIOD! Again, you said he isn't a Virgin, take the time to know that he wants more out of this relationship than JUST SEX! You will only be doing yourself harm to give in to less that what you really deserve and that is THE BEST OF EVERYTHING AND NOT JUST A SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP OR A ROMP IN THE HAY!
ASK GOD TO HELP YOU WITH THE TEMPTATIONS AND ASK THAT HIS WILL BE DONE!
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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