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*ophia702
writes:i am a 45 year old lady and i dont think i have ever had an orgasm. it really bother me tremendously. i dont know what i am doing wrong.i dont know what to do
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reader, oldfool  +, writes (10 November 2008):
 You don't give a lot of detail. Presumably you've never even managed to orgasm during masturbation, let alone sexual intercourse.
At any rate, the other aunts are right. Masturbation is the key. And the key to masturbation is that "little button". You have to experiment and find what feels right. Keep doing it as long as it feels good. Don't push yourself, just let your physical feelings guide you.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2008): Sorry babes, the guys are right. Women's bodies and our minds are built differently, we are sensitive. You are doing nothing wrong, a large percentage of women never have orgasms, and you may be one of them.. Our bodies are built in a funny way, it takes a long of effort and technique to get the orgasmic pleasure. Society also makes things difficult. We are trained from birth to give more than we receive. Sexual women are called "sluts" and there is a lot of embarrassment about being a "sexual woman". There are so many things that hold us back, and not enough things that encourage us to let go and find the pleasure we seek.
You need to be relaxed, you need to be able to say.. "fuck you world, I'm here on my own and I want to have pleasure", and mean it from the bottom of your heart. Get some oil, some vaseline or some cream, anything that will help to slid e over your sexual organs. Then you have to find your clitoris. It's a small little bump that lies on the top of your vagina. You rub it and rub it until it stands up, you should feel nervous, excited, fearful and ashamed, but you need to push all those negative feelings away. Keep rubbing your "clitoris" until you feel a "red" feeling coming up from your stomach and making you feel scared. Ignore the fear and keep rubbing, and rubbing. Maybe if you spank it a little it might help. Soon you should feel that you want more, keep on rubbing and rubbing and soon you should feel that excitement and release that people call orgasm..
If it doesn't work the first time, then that's ok. For many women, learning to orgasm takes a long, long time. Trust your body, it's there for your own personal pleasure. Nobody is watching you, and nobody knows what you are doing. If it doesn't work the first time, then relax because the next time will be better. If you like pornography then look at this and imagine that it's you in the sex scene. Or get a romantic book and imagine that it is you that the hero just has to "fuck" because you are wonderful and he gets so hot for you. Rub your little button and keep thinking sexy thoughts. If you don't orgasm, that's ok, but fantasy and that little button should give you pleasure and that's enough to make you smile, have fun and feel good....Blessings babes, great question, take care of you always and don't worry, it's your body and what you do with it is your business and nobody else's. Nobody can see you, nobody is watching you, so have some dirty fun, and make it feel good....
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