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writes:I really need some help.Im 22 and ive never had a proper bf.Ive been on dates and ive kissed a guy before.Last week i went out wiv this guy who was really nice, he was clingy though and i ran a mile. now he thinks ive messed him around and wont talk to me.Im still a virgin and dont want to rush anything.please whats your advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2008): am 22 nearly 23 female never kissed never dated never had sex (my choice) been asked out a bunch of times but chose to stay friends rather than "date" i am a christian and am very happy about the choices ive made regarding my sexuality i know that i will give myself 100% to the man i marry and he will do the same for me! ahhh! anything more sexy than that??!!! NOPE! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2008): I'm 28 and I've never even kissed a girl. I say be cool. I've waited this long because when I was younger I spent time with a lot of Christians (still do), and they would always be on my case about things like drinking and tobacco, yet they were always the ones that were twice as messed up as me over all their boy/girl trouble. It put me off. Also, I was a lot slower about making up my mind about whether or not I really wanted to date a girl than most guys (I wanted to get to know them better as friends before showing my feelings), and inevitably some guy would come along who didn't care about making sure of their compatibility as a couple and then I would be ancient history. The funny thing was, these girls would just totally sever ties with me, which I can understand to a point, but then they'd want to be my friend again when that relationship ended. I really couldn't be bothered too much, though, after that--they seemed so rude, know what I mean? When someone just totally drops you like that, it's hard for me to really care again. Anyway, the years have gone by and it seems harder to meet people at my age. I do play in an Irish bar band which is almost as silly as stories indicate in terms of women sort of throwing themselves at you. Obviously I don't find these women especially interesting.
The thing is, there simply aren't that many things that we share with only one or two people in this life. Even intimate conversation, we've gotta go through that to get to know someone anyway. Ya see? There may as well be one thing (i.e., sex) that isn't something that you've shared with every other person you've ever met.
Stay cool, your man will probably be grateful someday. By the way, if a relationship ends with a guy/girl because you don't want to have sex, it seriously isn't worth it. I'm a man, and I can honestly tell you that if I really loved someone or even thought I did, lack of sex would not matter at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2008): Hey just wanted to let you know your posting was very helpful and the replies to your posting was also. I am a very attractive 21 year old virgin who feels that I can't keep a man because I don't put out. This posting not only made me feel as if I'm not alone but that I just may be normal and if I'm not normal atleast I have a gang to hang out with... Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2008): Hey I am 22, almost 23 and you might as well call be a virgin. I had sex once when I was 18 to a girl who was that clingy type you describe. It wasn't that great, wasn't too comfortable about it. Haven't had a girlfriend since since I am a relatively shy person when it comes to those things.The good thing is you are still a virgin, so choose wisely. I have only had 2 girlfriends in my life. Sadly I was too shy with the first girl who I really liked to express myself physically, and I guess could say settled for second best.Just take it easy I guess. I think about it all the time, the more I think about it the more I get depressed, so just wait until you start dating a guy for a while and think he is worth it, to have you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2008): I am a guy, and would love to meet, and possibly have a relationship with a girl who was a virgin. In fact I would prefer it. I meet too many girls that are young, 18 and 19, that have already slept with many guys. I'm not terribly religious, I just think it is something special.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2008): It seems the boyfriend girlfriend troubles are getting worse for the children of our age. To compete with video games, and digital sexy women it's no wonder why many of us don't have a boyfriend. Don't feel bad about it. All things happen in there own due time. I have never had a boy friend, but i have been in love with a guy who didn't return the feelings. It was one of those I love him, he thinks I'm a nice girl but not for him stories. Technically, I've never been on a date. I've hang with guys in a group. But none dare touch me, they've never even tried and kiss me. They know I'm religious. Enough said. I want a guy and I figured to get a nice guy. I'll half to go where they are. Pick up a sports such as golf, skiing, snowboarding and join clubs or activities they like. Perhaps, I'll find a guy who will want to be with me, and I'll want to be with him. Perhaps even drop the religion for a while. Since the religious boys don't dare look at a girl, or want to touch her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2008): hey, dont feel bad,im 25 and still a virgin! ive kissed guys but thats it, and that was back in the day when i was like 15. i dont even have any friends to hang out with because they all moved away in the same summer. i dont go out anywhere either except for work and the grocery store. and i guess it doesnt help that i got really freakin fat-went from 140 to 200lbs cause i eat when im bored and depressed-which is most of the time (sigh) im lonely as hell!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2007): I'm also nearly 22 and also still a virgin. I feel lonely and really want to find someone to make a real connection with and share our lives. I have lots of friends, and am no more physically unattractive than lots of people I know in loving relationships, so I'm not sure what I'm doing wrong. Just wanted you to know - you're not the only one!!
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reader, WeLoveMe +, writes (1 June 2007):
 Yeah, this would be your first time, so it has to be special. There should be no such thing as settling for second best! I've came across alot of clingy people and no wonder you ran, its such a turn-off!Now, your 22 years old, still soo young. I'd get out there, have you ever tried internet dating websites? I've heard quite a few success stories with them. When you find someone, like you say there's no need to rush into anything. Your first time should be a memorable one with someone deeply and truely special enough for you to lose it too. You were right about that guy, you haven't messed him around, you got to know him and didn't find him attratcive. Simple as that. There will be someone out there for you, you just have to look! Take care, let me know how it goes! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2007): I'm 22 and to be honest I can't live without sex so more power to you for never having any.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2007): I'm 22 and also a virgin but what I would definitely say is trust your instincts. If it doesn't feel right don't go after this guy. So what if he thinks you're messing him around? Tell him why you're put off by him but don't feel sympathetic towards him. You've waited for this long, might as well wait for someone right.
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