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writes:Im 19 years old and iv been with my partner for over two years i know im young but i really feel this is the person i want to spend my life with recently i told him i want to have a child i feel im ready and i am mature then most girls my age i have a full time job in which i manage 7 people a night we both have a good income week to week and he has is own house he;s still paying of but he tells me he wants me to wait till im older does he want kids but not with me he has said if i was older that he would say yes i fell really sad because i want to have a child with this man and he doesnt want to it's frustrating cause this is my life and i have a right!!! help me!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2007): thanx guys but i not stupid or aragent you dont know the person iam so dont call me niave
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reader, sleepyhollow  +, writes (7 May 2007):
Take your time. You can have children for two more decades, so there's no rush to have them right this minute.
But keep in mind that he may not be the one. You may feel that strongly for him, but that doesn't necessarily he means he feels exactly the same way as you do.
When you mix in sex with a relationship, along with youth, and naivété you usually end up with a young person who believes they know everything there is to know about what it feels like to be in love. I know, I was once where you were at, after only dating a girl for a few months... And we weren't even having sex. Call it youthful arrogance.
So, take your time. Enjoy the relationship as it is. Consider going back to Uni or community college or night school and expanding on your options and opportunities. If, by 22 or 23, the two of you are still together, and your professional life and personal life are still doing well, the next step would be marriage, and then children.
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