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writes: Hi,I just had a quick question. I met this guy when I was 15 and he was 22 (don't worry, nothing happened). We've stayed friends for three years.Now I'm 18 and he's 25. I've had a crush on him since I first met him, and now I can finally act on it.He's been nothing but wonderful and respectful and I know he wouldn't just be in it for sex or anything. We've developed a really good friendship and I trust him completely.But some other people have doubts about it...they say I'm wasting my teen years (my teen years are almost over!) and that we're in different life stages or he'll probably want to settle down with a family soon.He's never made any indication of wanting to get married or have kids right now, and so I'm not even worrying about that.Am I stupid for trying to start a relationship? Is he too old for me? We don't seem to be in seperate "life stages", then again what do I know, since most people still see me as a child anyway.Just thought I'd see what you all think!
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reader, justice +, writes (8 August 2006):
well, you cant help your feelings and you can try it but dont be suprised if he start talking about settling down and children because you know he is still older than you but you are the legal age so what you should do is talk to him and review your relationship and hell fill in the gaps!
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (5 August 2006):
 I got with my boyfriend a year ago and ours was a similar age gap. I was 18 and he was 27. We are in different stages in life but that doesn't have to be a bad thing. I'm the young one that makes us go out and get drunk and he's the older one who has loads of stories to tell and is really intelligent! But seriously, we make a good couple and the age doesn't even come into it.
He respects where I am in life and that's important when they're older. He's desperate for kids and marriage but he knows it won't be on the cards for me for about 10 years! He's fine with that, he says as long as he stands at the alter with me, he doesn't care if he has to wait 30 years!
If you give this a go, just be sure you know what each other want. You are at different stages in life but I don't think I wasted my teens with a boyfriend, we have fun and I also had a great time with my mates every week away from him. Just don't put all your eggs in one basket, take it slow and see how it goes.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2006): Go with your feelings, not other people's advice (except my advice here, lol). You can't let other people make your choices for you. It's your life. You're 18 now, you're an adult, and you're completely responsible for yourself. You have every right to start a relationship with this man if that is what you truly want. Sure, there will be some problems, but every relationship has problems, and I'm sure you knew that already. Besides, if he is really as wonderful and respectful as you say, you should snatch him up while you can! There aren't many men left on this earth that are like that! In all seriousness, though, this decision is entirely yours to make, and no one else's. Just keep your feelings and values at heart. I wish you the best of luck and I hope everything works out okay. Stay smart!
~RJGirl
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