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*onused lad 07
writes:hi im 15 and i have a really nice friend in a 19 year old girl who lives about 3-4 hours away. we met on the internet on xbox live. we met about 1-2 months ago and we are really good friends but i like her more than a friend and we both talk to each other everyday and we text each other lots during the day. we always talk about how life would b like if we got toghether and such. she says that i make her happy and that when she talks to me she fogets her problems.i really like her but the distance is killing me plus the 4 year age gap is abit much. weve always thaught when im 19-20 shed give me a try but i cant wait that long.What should I do?
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reader, love-him +, writes (25 November 2007):
 Hey hon, i was 15 when i met my boyfriend who was 20 who is now 21. We have been together for 17 months, and i am nearly 17 now, that makes us a 4-5 year age gap. Depending on how much you feel for each other, then the age gap wont matter.. Dont listen to what anyone says you need to listen to what you think yourself. I hope i helped, Feel free to mail me aout anything x
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2007): OK, well thanks for your "delayed" info that you are attending an all male school. Thanks. I always love being made foolish. It keeps me humble. (lol!) I am not giving you any more "advice", 'lad'. I think you really have no problem other than being fifteen yrs. old. That can be a problem in itself. I am not too old to remember. But, take care. And don't marry before you are twenty-one. That is my only rule.
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reader, conused lad 07 +, writes (3 November 2007):
conused lad 07 is verified as being by the original poster of the question*Update* you see, Friend Tom, thats the thing. im in a Boys Only school so id have to go out out and meet new people which gets me more than meeting girls. she said to me, after telling me how her day at work was, that she was happy that im there to listen since she said her boyfriend takes her for granted (sp?). shes not being treated right and it hurts me. shes a really good friend and i dont want to forget about her, which is why im hesitant about getting a gf. we have almost everything in common too. i told her that i think its strange that we are this close a pair of friends considering we only met a month or two ago, it feels likes weve been friends our entire life. after i told her this she said she feels the same way and that you cant help it when you just 'click' with someone.im going out of my mind help me please.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2007): Well, my opinion of her has grown. I think she is trying to be a real friend. She is giving you all the right advice and encouragement. She is telling you that you are fine, and have no reason to be so shy of any girls. I am just going to say to keep being friends with her and take her compliments in the way I think she means them. And take them to heart. Get some confidence in yourself and try to make some girl friends your own age. You can certainly be selective. I am sure you know some intelligent girls who have the same interests as you. Start with girls in your favourite classes. I know you can strike a conversation. It is just the "doing" of it. "L'audace! vive l'audace"!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2007): Sorry, conused lad, but you've got to learn to live with the pain. It is fine to have older friends. I had several. But, romance is really not in the cards here, and I think you know it. Do you really think she has the same feelings? Or that she is going to wait four years for you to become "available"? Has she really indicated any such thing? If she has, she is being dishonest and should be ashamed. Older girls who are truly friends can be a great thing. But be careful of your feelings here. They are bordering on fantasy. I am only speculating here. She may really like you as a friend and enjoy your conversations. That is fine. But remember where you are in your life and what lies ahead. She has already passed through that scene, or should have. She is probably looking beyond as well. At nineteen, she has many life decisions to make now. I don't think they include a guy four years younger. Best wishes
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reader, conused lad 07 +, writes (2 November 2007):
conused lad 07 is verified as being by the original poster of the question*Update* it isnt possible either for me to get a girl my own age. im too nervous and scared of rejection. but my friend, she says im funny, charming and really mature for my age. she thinks im so kind and she tells me i say all the right things but im still scared of meeting new people. in real life, i am shy and tend not to say a word when i meet new people. she cant believe that im so diferent in real life to the internet. i think im hideous looking too but she says i look cute. also if i was to get a girlfriend my own age, i dont want to forget about her, i really care for her. im so confused any help is much appreciated.
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