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writes:I'm 12 and my problem is that I think I'm gay but i also like girls... When all the other boys at my school talk about girls, I'm not interested. I am also attracted to other boys. Is what I'm feeling normal? Is there any way I can change? I know you think it isint good to have a realationship like that with people at this age but everyone does at my school but its like being best friends with someone till your old enough to love them more... I think im gonna be alone for the rest of my life... also people hate gays and joke around about gays too and i dont think many people are gay.. could you help me or tell me someone I could talk too with the same problem?-???
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2007): That feeling what you are feeling is normal and quite common. Sexuality comes natural and there is no way to stop it 100%. As you say you like girls aswell, that means you are a bisexual. This means you like both genders. As you grow older you will either find a male to love and care for or a female. You have nothing to worry about, it's nature! You will soon realise what your sexuality is as you mature. ;) regards , michelle
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2007): hay m8 im 19 now and i jus want to say i sometimes felt attracted to boys but i asked my dad and brother they said it was normal jus dont worry cos look at me i love girls and i got a hot babe dont worry
good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2007): Hi there. You are going through Puberty, what that means is that your hormones are starting to swirl through your body, you are starting to notice what is attractive about both sexes, and being male, you are of course having more fun and feel more comfortable with other males. This does not make you gay. The fact that you are not all that interested in girls yet is not unusual for a 12 year old. Trust me, that will change in a few short years.
You sound like a sensitive soul, and feel that gays should be accepted, as do I, but I am a bit upset that you think that it is something you might be, if you were, there would be no question about it....you can choose to be, but why would you want to do that if it is not how you were born? It is a hard life, and you may miss out on finding the woman of your dreams and having a family of your own, and you may really want that someday.
Right now, just have friendships, and don't worry about the future and being alone forever, that is just ridiculous...Puberty also makes you a bit moody, so just realize this is just a passing mood and get on with life.
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reader, rk06  +, writes (13 April 2007):
 I would say its normal to notice if other men are attractive. Not being interested in a girl at your age seems a little abnormal, but dont worry.
As for the homosexual part... I wouldnt worry. I have a firm belief that people are not born gay, so therefore if you did not want to be... you wouldnt.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (13 April 2007):
 Whoa buddy, relax. What you are feeling is TOTALLY normal. You've gotten yourself all worked up over nothing. Everyone goes through all this as they approach their teenage years. Try not to stress over all this.
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