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writes:Hi, if you love someone but don't have a clue wether they feel the same or not should you tell them. What if the guy just freaks out? would telling him reduce your chances of ever being together? Please let me know what you think. what advantages and disadvantage there are in telling them. Perhaps you find this silly but I know it's real love on my side and I'm not sure if it's better to live not knowing how he feels or risking everything by asking him. thank you Reply to this Question
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reader, Love_is_all_youu_need +, writes (5 August 2010):
 I agree with CaringGuy, it is worth the risk.
Just don't come across too strongly because it could freak him out!
Best of luck xx
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (4 August 2010):
You need to tell him. If you don't tell him at all, you'll never be together and you'll always wonder what could have been. At least if you tell him and he says no, you'll know it was never meant to be. You need to say something, or you'll regret it. It's worth the risk.
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reader, GettingInYourBizness  +, writes (4 August 2010):
 I just did this recently.
I had this guy I knew for awhile, we seemed to get along great, same values.
I told him I liked him more than a friend and if he felt the same. I wasn't in love, head over heels yet, but wanted to see if it would go anywhere as BF/GF.
His answer was no (as a short version), and he was completely surprised as he never picked up on it before. I had known him a few weeks and I thought I did a pretty good job of making it obvious, but I was tired of not knowing so just asked.
I don't regret asking, the longer you leave it unknown the more attached you'll get it. As soon as I thought I was starting to feel that way, I asked.
It's wild how people go years and years about liking one person and just never ask...
We're still friends, but strangely I noticed he's pursuing me a lot more than he had in the past, maybe he's second-guessing his choice.
He wont' get another chance though, I keep pushing the friends only thing.
Good luck and ASK.
P.S. You don't have to pour out your heart, just ask if he has any feelings for you as more than friends or only friends.
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