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writes: Once upon a time...I met a man. We developed an amazing friendship. We spent an awful lot of time together. We did things, went places, I met his parents, we kissed, fooled around a bit but never had sex. I wasn't ready for that, I couldnt tell how he felt about me, and I felt so strongly about him I wasn't comfortable with giving that much of myself (I was a virgin) to him without assurance. In fact, he flat out told me he "didn't like me like that". We spent a great deal of time together over the next 1yr and 1/2. We had a falling out, I missed him terribly we didn't talk for a while apprx 6 months, I met other men (a lot of others), dated - but I always wished I was with him. We reconciled and began spending time together again. we talked about our relationship in the past and he said to me, "we were dating - you just didn't know it".... Things started getting intense again, like the closeness we used to have.We had sex a month or so ago, and have since then. We both make an effort to see each other, spend nights together sometimes the whole weekend, go out and do things, cook, go to movies, read in bed together. We've been a lot more open with each other about how we feel - but not totally, its too scary to be so vulnerable. He knows he was my first (to clarify I was never saving for marriage I just wanted it to be with someone I was comfortable with - hes the person I feel the most comfortable around.)I asked him how he felt about me sleeping with other people, he said he didn't care, but he didn't want to know about it, and he seems to be slightly jealous when I chat with other men or bring them up. He's admitted he feels strongly about me, and loves me enough to know hed never want to hurt me,and doesn't want to lose me, but I still feel confused about his inentions....And are we dating? I didn't know we were before, and things are definately more serious than they were before...so...but then why doesnt he care if I sleep with other people?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2007): if you are close, make him read your post:) im suree he will understand where youre coming from! and he willl hopefully answer your question. He is the only person who can confirm whats going on, the rest of us would be making assumptions. god bless, friend x
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2007): he does care if you sleep with other people.what he's actually asking you to do is prove your love for him. 'oh i dont care' in guy language means 'please stay loyal i love you'confusing i know.tell him your staying loyal to him because you love him?
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