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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Dear allI met a girl recently and for 3 weeks we got along so well, flirting, she wanted to talk every day, know everything about me and spend time together. we were getting closer and closer and suddenly she pulled away. stopped replying to me and became a little distant.so i thought she lost interestrecently i sent her a message just to see if there was anything left and she was exactly how she was at the start, talking a lot, flirting and so on. She told me that she finds it very difficult to trust new people and knows its not a good way to treat people. She said she tries to not be silly but often cannot help it. Then today she stopped replying again just as we were getting closer.My question is. do you think her trust issues could be the reason? or am i just clutching at straws?I've had girlfriends before and you know you can just feel when someone likes you, when things are going well with her, i am sure she does, we are so good together in those moments. but then she backs away.If her trust issues are the reason, what can i do to help it?What will usually happen is she just stops replying to my messages. its hard to arrange to meet up as she lives 1 hour away and works a lot so i cannot say lets meet this day, as her free days are always different. so usually she tells me when she can meet.What should i do?at the moment if she stops replying i just give her time and send another message maybe 1 to 2 weeks later.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2015): leave her. find someone else who can match your relationship needs she obviously isnt ready to commit to you so just go about your life and find someone else. i know you probably really like her but doing this will be better than getting attached to her and then she tells you that she doesnt want a relationship because that really hurts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2015): I think some girls have a hard time holding onto long distance relationships and when you're not talking, she might be exploring other options. She probably feels no sense of commitment between the two of you, leaving her to continue acting single and inconsistent. The fact that she is flirting with you and showing interest shows that you are her type. However, you are not really doing anything to fill any of her needs, assuming she is looking for a committed relationship. People with trust issues are either people who were screwed over very badly and damaged by a small number of people, or they are people who are let down a lot because they tend to place higher expectations on people than what would be considered reasonable.
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reader, Beryl1 +, writes (9 November 2015):
It could be that she is being distant because of trust issues but also you need to be careful as she could also have someone else on the go. Firstly I think you should talk to her tell her how you feel about her also mention that for the relationship to work she needs to trust you i mean you haven't given her any reason not to. There are ways to help a girl with trust issues show her you are there send her a good morning text and a good night text so she knows you are thinking about her. Overtime if she is still the same being of and being distant I'd say give up on it you've tryed she's either to damaged to have a relationship and can only help herself or she is seeing more than just you either way I hope all works out for you
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