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writes:quick question can you love and be in love with some one that doesnt love you back ? if your partner cheats on you does that mean they dont love you ????or do they just not respect you !!!!!!!!!!!! Reply to this Question |
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reader, Ears4tears  +, writes (15 September 2007):
 SADLY YES huni,the thing about falling in love, is that you have no control over who you fall in love with, even worse you cant make the object of your attections return your feelings!!!
From bitter experience i dont believe that just because your partner cheats he/she doesnt love you. There are a number of reasons why people cheat and it doesnt nessasery mean that, that reason has many think to do with you.
Sometimes people cheat not because they dont respect you but because they dont respect there selves.
The only way you get the answers is if you ask
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2007): It means both he doesn't love you or respect you. And of course you can love someone who cheated on you especially if you JUST found out. I mean you might hate him for what he's done but love does not go away just like that. But if this guy has cheated on you repeatedly or you found out a long time ago and you STILL love him, then I would say that no I don't think it is possible to really love someone who's cheated on you. IN that case it just means that you don't love or respect yourself. And when you don't love yourself you can't truly love anybody else. That's what I think.I was cheated on by a bf once and I broke up with him but I didn't stop loving him. It took me a while to get over him even knowing that he had cheated. But I guess with him it was different and I'll explain why. He wasn't one of these pathological cheaters. These guys see nothing wrong with cheating even though they make you believe otherwise. You know what I mean? The kind of guys who can look you in the eye and tell you they love you and go behind your back and cheat on you and feel no remorse. He wasn't like that. His cheating was an isolated incident (my friend saw it so I knew all the details. ha!) But cheating is cheating. You got to move on, period.
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reader, leanne.od +, writes (15 September 2007):
 from personal experience, a parnter cheats when a relationship has gone bad, they want a quick exit and if you found he cheated then he left the clues for you to find. in terms of respect, a man who can go out and cheat with someone else whilst your blissfully unaware has no respect for you. respect is about trust and honesty, cheating is niether trustworthy or honest. it is deceietful and the worst form of betrayal. my advice - if you feel you love someone who doesn't love you back and he's cheated anyway, walk away with your dignity and head held high and you'll find someone who deserves your love. best of luck.
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reader, Sandman + ♥, writes (15 September 2007):
 Hmmmm....
Well, you can definitely love or be in love with someone who doesn't love you back. But be very careful when using the term "love" when describing feels for someone. Love is (or at least should be) a very powerful word that describes a deep emotional connection between you and the other person. Sometimes people say they "love" someone but just really, really, really "like" them.
There are some who will say that if your partner cheats on you that they don't love you. I'm not able to really expound on this as I've never cheated on someone I loved. I feel that if you love someone (or say you do), you're not willing to sacrifice the relationship you have with them by finding solace or comfort in another man or woman. It CAN mean that they don't respect you, or even more simpler don't respect the relationship you two share if someone cheats. If they respected the relationship, they wouldn't need to cheat.
Hope this helps.
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