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If I went back to this troubled girl how would I get her to trust me?

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Question - (17 February 2013) 0 Answers - (Newest, )
A male Denmark age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Started wondering what went wrong with my previous relationship with this extremely beautiful and kind woman who I met a year ago.

I often thought that she didn't really love me because she would never tell me she cared about me, but now I'm convinced that she had a traumatic past and because of that she is scared of trusting people and expressing feelings.

She would never directly tell me how she felt about me but she would often send me a song that expressed how she felt at the time.

She would also cry a lot every time I had hurt her in even the slighest way, like saying a decision of hers was stupid.

I'm quite sure that she had abusive parents and a really bad childhood, perhaps she was abandoned. I don't know. She would never tell me about her family

It's like she didn't want me to know that she loved me, but I always knew anyway.

She can't deal with conflicts either. She would just avoid me all day or start the silent treatment if something was going to "upset the balance".

I did always make her feel loved but it felt like nothing was ever enough? What was I supposed to do? And if I went back to her how would I get her to trust me? Also, why is she like this? I want to understand and help her, if it is in any way possible.

Thanks.

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