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writes:Hello, I got out of a relationship 4 months ago. Basically, I was dumped, and lets say my ex and I have been through a lot. We used to be attached like twins, and we went through a few arguments that escalated. He broke up with me because he thought I was too controlling. But, at the time he still loved me but he wanted to drop it all because due to our distance it's hard to maintain a relationship. He has work and school. Now, after all that, I left him alone and one day he comes at me and yells at me because he thinks my friends are harassing him about me. Unfortunately, he was complaining about these ridiculous formspring questions? It's a site that anonymously asks questions to the user, and it can bring the worst out of an individual. I have no idea who did it, and I had no control over it so he put the blame on me. But, in that situation it could be anyone. So, he ends up blocking me completely unreasonably without reasoning. So, his best friend talks to me telling me it's not my fault, and told me he'll try to talk to him. Unfortunately he got mad at the both of us. Most of his friends disagree with his action. His birthday is coming up, and I still want to have that friendship we had and we haven't talked in a month. I have a photo of a street sign with his name on it. I was thinking about mailing it to him to reconcile. I also noticed that he keeps reading my blogs once in awhile, if he says he doesn't care, why does he still look at my stuff? Btw I have a blog counter that tracks IPs. Not to sound freaky or anything, but I recently discovered it.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 November 2010):
 Hi ok well it sounds like this guy just wanted someone to lash out and put the blame on and he chose you. I guess you just need to ignore the fact that he is blaming you and be the mature one here, he is probably reading your blog to make sure you are not saying anything about him, as it sounds like he might be a paranoid person.
If you want to get back in contact with him and you feel you are over him and are ready to be just friends then sure drop him an email, scan the photo and tell him that you found the photo and thought of him so you thought you would email him to see how he is and what he is up to these days, and maybe ask him would he like to meet up for a catch up.
If he doesnt mail back then you need to accept that he just does not want to talk to you yet for whatever reason and just look ahead, accept that you are not going to be friends anytime soon and look positively in to your own future, make plans with friends.
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