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41-50,
anonymous
writes:my boyfriend and i have been together for almost two years now. he has been unemployed for over half of our relationship. he is currently living with family outside of the town we live in. when he first moved in with his parents he started a "routine" of one night during the week and then on the weekends coming to see me. i figured over time he would come to see me more. this has not changed. he has said that "when he gets a job we can get a place together". i'm confused because if he is ready for that then why doesn't he want to spend more time with me?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (13 November 2009):
You need to tell him that before you can move in again, you need to spend more time together. Men respond better to direct talk, so tell him that you would like to spend more time with him.
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reader, ma-an-na  +, writes (13 November 2009):
Hi there!
Am no socio-pro, but the way i see it, this is a classic case of lack of communication.
You wanna see him more. Its natural, he's your boyfriend and you deserve more of his attention.
He however spends most of his time away from you and does not seem to see whats wrong with that.
Set your records straight. Talk to him and tell him you want more attention. If he doesn't see the importance of spending time with the one you love, how will life be after he moves in? you could end up seeing him even less, in the morning when u wake up and late at night.
Ensure that your relationship is based on love and not habit, that the romance is still strong and hasn't gone stale and that u both want the same thing.
Stay cool!
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