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writes: I'm 19 and I've been dating my girlfrind now for 6 months and everything is good. I am a virgin, she is not, and she knows this. She wants to have sex and I tell her I'm not ready and she gets a little annoyed but deals with it. It's just that I don't think I love her, I just have strong feelings for her and I want to lose my virginity to someone I love. I am almost positive that we will break up b/c of this. Should I tell her that I want to lose my virginity to someone I love, which will end the relationship? Or just keep us together and have sex, b/c what we have is truly great? And if I do tell her, I'm afraid that I'll be putting my reputation on the line. Reply to this Question
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (21 March 2006):
 I think you need to tell her that you are not ready yet.
Most people who are waiting for a partner to have sex, are patient and happy to wait. Some are not, and they in my opinion are not worth the time of day.
No one should be pressured into having sex. Your girlfriend needs to accept that.
I think the issue here is that if you don't love her is it because it is too early or is it because you think you will never be in love with her?
Perhaps you are holding back because you don't think she is the right girl for you? Maybe you think there is someone else out there?
I think you need to stick to your guns with this. Follow your own conscience rather than feel pressured.
I would very carefully also consider your relationship with this girl and perhaps what the future lies for both of you.
Good luck
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reader, d4u04  +, writes (20 March 2006):
 First of all, you shouldn't have to compramise your morals for anyone, if your girlfriend can't handle going without sex if it makes you happy then I really don't think she's right for you, no matter how good things are. Relationships are must than just sex, even though sex is seen as a big part of it, it doesn't have to be until both parties are ready. If you really don't want to lose her then I can advice nothing else except have sex but you won't be able to enjoy it to its full extent as you'll be thinking is this really what i want through-out the whole process. It's basically just a case of wanting her vs your belief's and moral conscience and the desicion is obviously up to you but if I were you, I would have a serious think about what you want to do.
Sleep with your girlfriend or hang on to something very rare in this day and age, a man who actually cares about sex and doesn't see it as just a quick hump and dump.
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