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writes:Ok. So im 13. In 6th grade, there was this guy. He was really funny and cute. We went skating sometimes and we texted each other, but I think I kind of annoyed him most of the time. I had never really had any friends [especially ones that were guys], so I didnt really know what to say when we talked, which is why I think I came across too strong. I never hit on him, but Im pretty sure he thought I was annoying and weird. Halfway through the year he left because he was failing and decided to go to private school. He wasnt there in 7th grade. But this year hes back. He hangs out with the "cool" [people, he did in 6th grade too], he was in one of my classes but then everybody got switched. He came up to me one time seeking answers for a worksheet then he said "I know your name, from 6th grade," then he went on to say how the place we used to skate was "the shit" now. By the way, what does that mean? Anyway, he hasnt said anything to me since then, but I want to talk to him. What can I do? What do I say? How do I go about saying? Will I seem weird for even talking to him? I really dont want to annoy him because I know how it feels to be annoyed by people, and I dont want him to think im weird. All answers are greatly appreciated, thanxxx
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reader, LovingLife +, writes (7 October 2010):
 Well, if your nervice that maybe you'll choke up when talking to this guy, then just think about what you'll say to him before saying it, think of replies to possible things he might say to you, so on and so forth. Eventually, things will begin to flow, and you won't need to think about it anymore.
If you're worried that maybe he won't like you, don't! What you mistaked for him thinking you were weird or annoying could have been something else completely. He probably liked hanging out with you, and maybe he's just as shy as you. Remember that girls aren't the only ones who are scared. Boys can be just as nervous, so it's a big relief if the girl makes the first move.
Self confidence issues? I have a little advice for that, too. Before you go to sleep at night, think of at least two good qualities about yourself. In the morning, look in the mirror and compliment yourself, and it doesn't matter what it is you like about yourself. Whether it's how the shirt you picked out looks on you, how your skin looks a bit clearer, anything. And pay attention to compliments you get! They could make your day, and boost your confidence, even by just a little.
Haha, sorry, I'm kind of rambling...Anyways, just like I said in my original post, make small comments to this guy every once and awhile and work your way up from there. I promise that talking to him is easier than it seems, especially since you used to kind of be friends with him.
Good luck!! (:
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2010): Hi, oringinal poster here. Well, thats another problem. I dont have any courage at all and I want to change that, but how can I go about doing that?
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reader, LovingLife +, writes (7 October 2010):
"The shit" is a teenagers way of saying that something/someone/a place is really cool, or awesome, or whatever. Just wanted to answer that little question before I continue on to the advice ;) So it seems like you're kind of shy. So here's something that you could do. Basically, start out by making small comments to him, asking him questions, etc. Get to know him more, and see what you two have in common. Then you just work your way up from there. Pretty simple, right? But there's one thing you should always remember: be yourself! Don't change who you are for a group of girls you'd like to be friends with, or a boy you have a crush on, etc. Be who you are, and be proud of it! NO, you will not seem weird for talking to him. I'd be one of those people who'd think you were pretty brave, because alot of girls are a little scared to talk to boys who they like. So it's pretty awesome when one girl has enough courage to talk to that one boy. All in all, just warm up to him, and allow him to warm up to you, and then you'll be on your way!
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