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writes:There is this guy I really like, in fact I think I'm falling in love with him. I really want to be with him and spend a lot of time thinking about him, we speak daily over the phone so this is pretty unavoidable. I was really wondering whether I should tell him that I like him more than just being friends or would this jeopardise our friendship, if I were to tell him what should I say? It sounds stupid but I feel numb and empty if I don't speak to him, he makes me feel so alive and there's this connection I cannot explain, I'd happily spend the rest of my life with him. How do I know if he feels the same way about me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2009): Nobody can answer this question for you apart from him. If you feel so strongly about this isn't it worth fighting for? Even if he doesn't feel the same, if he is a true friend, he will stand by you. Don't give up on love. Lifes too short, so live it like there's no tommorow. Hope it works out well for you. Good luck :)
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (10 April 2009):
 Friendship with the opposite sex can be awkward sometimes! Your gut instinct should tell you if he likes you or not, and you speak daily so that is a good starting point! Rather than blurting out your undying love over the phone, why not arrange a night out...no big deal, just a few drinks (but don't get drunk and propose to him!). It could be construed as friendship or a date by him, then you both have the opportunity to declare your feelings. Men are easier to 'read' their behaviour/ thoughts from in person, than over the phone. You should also know that if you declare love and he doesn't feel the same way you may jeopardise the friendship as he may feel awkward afterwards. However, if you like him that much then friendship will always be never enough for you and it seems like it has got to the point where you have to speak up!
I personally think if he speaks to you often then it is a good sign that he cares about you and it maybe the start of a relationship. He maybe shy or scared about asking you out though. Personally I think life is too short to worry about ruining friendships when you are that smitten. Just go out and have some fun, if more was meant to happen then it will for sure!
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