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writes:I keep circulating around the same type of guys in my love life. If the guy does not belong to someone else, he probably has a baby. I'm single and would like to change the type of guys i attract. How do i do that? Reply to this Question
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reader, penta  +, writes (31 July 2007):
 Work on being the person who attracts better men. Do things that build your self-confidence -- confidence is sexy. And great men are attracted to self-confident women. The wrong kind of guy always wants a woman who will cling to him so that he can take advantage. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2007): Well, where are you meeting them? How do you present yourself? Maybe you should dress & hang out in better places, like maybe a bookstore, and wear a nice outfit. I am not saying you look like a whore, or hang out in bars. I don't know. But usually the kind of men who you don't want to meet hang out in bars & present themselves in a bad way. So mentally imagine the type of guy you want, then try to present yourself in a way that he would like. I don't know what else you could do. You could always be really upfront right when you meet them & ask "do you have any kids, are you single, are you living with your mom, do you drink, etc" so that you don't waste any time getting to know a man then find out he has a baby. Are you sure the man for you isn't right in front of your face? When I was looking for a man I didn't even think of this guy I knew for 6 yrs. He was a friend. But we ended up together & it's cool b/c I knew all about him & vice versa. Good Luck.
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reader, Beckto +, writes (31 July 2007):
 Think about the things you do in a relationship or when attracting men. Are there anythings you do that could give the wrong signal? Are there any common threads between these men you date? If there are, then are there signs you can see early on?
Try dating men you usually wouldn't be attracted to. Even if they seem safe and boring at first, try dating them anyway.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2007): All you need to do is take more time choosing. If you meet someone who seems nice, you might think OK I will give him a go. Soon you are in bed with them, then you find out the other stuff and think OH No why does this always happen to me?
Go back to proper dating and get to know some guys first. To the point where you know where they live, have met their family, know their history and character. Until that point you run the risk of picking them on very thin information. The problem is you choose too fast, that is all.
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reader, PoSiOnKiSS  +, writes (31 July 2007):
 This is difficult, because the same thing keeps happening to me, always end up being married or have baggage. And its nothing your doing wrong, you just havent found that single guy yet. Best advice i can give is keep looking, but dont expect anything. He`ll come along when you least expect it, and good things come for those who wait :) Hope it helps hun x
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