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writes:I don't get it alot of guys like me and i mean ALOT but yet no guy has asked me out and I'm thinking that it is me. My mom says that guys are affraid of me saying no if they ask me out. I feel really down about that. I don't know ehat to do about this and I would like to get a Boyfreind. Dose anyone know how I could get one, I don't want to sound Desperate I'm really not I would just like to know why no guys have asked me out? Reply to this Question
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (3 June 2008):
 Teenage boys, well most men are not all that sure how to go about asking women out. There is a reason so many women end up dating assholes and abusers, that is because they are the ones who got the most confidence to ask them out.
You got two options, sit there and wait for a guy to get the nerve to talk to you or take matters in your own hands.
That is to scary and you are to shy? Congrats, you just found out why the guys ain't asking you out.
But don't worry, guys will get better at it. Give it another decade or two and they will be confident enough to say "hi".
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reader, remora135 +, writes (3 June 2008):
tremors right, we are whimps about it, im always nervous and a bit afraid of rejection but youve got to flirt a bit, dont throw yourself at them but just a bit of flirting never hurts
best of luck
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reader, bfire +, writes (3 June 2008):
Probably just because they are nervous. I am 22 and still have issues asking out pretty girls. Basically I don't and it is regretful.
Seriously, don't leave it all up to the guy. Either ask one out you like. Or always talk and flirt with one you like so that it will become more obvious to him, may give him the confidence he needs to ask you out.
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reader, Tremor  +, writes (3 June 2008):
 Your mother is probably right - teenage boys are wimps when it comes to asking a lass out. Which is perfectly normal really - no-one wants to feel rejected or make themselves vulnerable.
Have you considered taking matters into your own hands? If you're keen on a guy, don't hesitate to make the first move - ask him to a movie, to get a coffee, or something. Confidence is /always/ attractive. If he says 'no', then at least you know you tried - and if he says 'yes', well even better. =)
But don't be in a rush. Don't go dating anyone just for the sake of having a boyfriend. You've got YEARS and YEARS and YEARS to date - there's no hurry.
Good luck. =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2008): They might think you are too conservative, well, or to say you are not that easy to be asked to have sex with them. This is just my opinion, don't know if its right! You'd better be proud of facing this kind of problem though :D
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