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writes:My boyfriend is more of a id rather see you thanText or call you kind of guy. I dont remember him ever wanting to call or text me. Im usually the one who text messages first. I asked him if he feels anything when i txt him and he says no i just see youve texted me and txt back, im not like those dramatic teens on tv, and i dont mean that in a bad way.I just feel like i feel alot more than he does i would love it if he sent me a sweet little txt message one daywithout me txting him first i love him lots i just wish hed be a bit romantic ya know. I appologize if the question sounds needy .
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2012): I hate to say this, but I expected the same thing out of my first love to show emotion towards me and he never did. If you NEED that out of a relationship, you may want to look elsewhere. You deserve to be complimented and told how much you mean to him. Does he do this in person? If so, then I wouldn't worry. But if he doesn't, I'd try talking to him or looking for someone who will fill your emotional needs as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2012): "I wish my boyfriend would be a little more affectionate!"
Would you rather that he "tells you he loves you" and "treats you like a queen" while he tries to bang every other woman under the sun under your nose?
He is who he is, why don't you see him for the real-life person with whom YOU are supposedly "in love" rather than the fantasyland dreamboat with whom you would prefer to be "in love" instead?
If not, then dump him so you can find a loser jerk who will "tell you he loves you" and "treat you like a queen" while he tries to bang every other woman under the sun under your nose. Believe me, no shortage of those bozos; just read any random days worth of Dear Cupid archive postings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2012): Try what the previous poster said, and see what happens. If nothing changes, then either accept it or find someone else who gives you that butterfly feeling really.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2012): Why not just ask him to do that then?
You know what kind of guy he is and you've given him the impression you're okay with that, so why not tell him you'd like him to text you something sweet every now and again out of the blue?
OP he's not a mind reader, he told you this is not one of those things he's going to think to do himself, but he will probably do it more often if he thinks you'd like it, so just tell you would like that. Problem solved.
FYI OP I know you're young but need to learnt to communicate your needs and wants to a boyfriend, we're not mind readers and we're not always going to think of these things on our own. There's nothing wrong with telling us you'd like something from us, and a sweet text here and there is no effort at all. And there's nothing needy about it either OP, it's just a sweet gesture you'd like him to do sometimes to let you know he's just randomly thinking of you in that moment.
I never used to text or call unless I needed something or to had something to say, but my girlfriend loves little sweet reminders of how awesome she is, so it's no bother to take 2 minutes to tell her that every day.
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