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writes:Hey, so I'ma college freshman, 18, and new to relationships. I've been looking for something more serious and so my friend told me to go on some dates. I went on three, expecting one of them to be the obvious choice. However, all three of them went really well and now I need help figuring out who to choose.Guy #1: he goes to the same school, is sweet and fun and a great guy. We have a lot in common too.Guy #2: British, handsome, Very nice, smart and driven. But he lives 30min away and neither of us have cars.Guy #3: tall, really sweet and caring, super cute and nice. He lives the farthest away but has a car.All of them have said they have feelings for me and I like them too. As for the car issue, my college rents them out by the hour making travel possible but expensive for more than 4 hours. On top of that, how do I let down without hurting them? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2015): Go for the guy in the same school as you can spend time together without it being a big deal and you have a lot in common.
as for the other guys just let them know they can be on your xmas card list but you have linked up with some one closer to home.
Then if college lad is also interested you can meet for coffee at college, cinema trips ,xmas dinners etc but unless you want to break your hearts early in life dont rush the emotional and physical side of things but let the friendship develop slowly.
wise owl probably knows what he's talking about in this matter.
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reader, Been there Now over it +, writes (5 December 2015):
Go ahead and date others, as well. While these three are good, it usually takes quite a few more than that to find the one who makes you crazy in love. If one of them gets to possessive, tell him that you aren't looking for a relationship at this time...that you don't have a lot of experience dating and you are using this time to explore dating and romance. By all means, if you are having sex, wear protection!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2015): You don't have to make a decision right away but it might be worth considering that most people marry someone who lives within 5 miles of them. I read that in a magazine a while back. I think i would personally choose the closet one because I have been in long distance relationships, discovered they don't work for me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2015): Choose the one who makes the most effort to get to YOU!
You're all very young gay males; so your romantic attention-spans are very short. Cuteness is your main attraction to each other. All quite superficial to say the least. Don't pretend you want anything serious; because you don't. If you can't make up your mind, you have no real feelings for any of them.
You're a kid in a candy-shop, and it won't be long before you'll find yet a fourth.
They will lose interest one-by-one; because like yourself, they will see others more appealing for whatever reason.
Ever heard of public transportation? It isn't expensive, and it's as good of a choice as any when you need transportation. If you can't afford a car, use a bus!
Do good favors, and occasionally borrow a car. Show good-faith by keeping the tank full, if you borrow! Never drink and drive, be responsible if someone offers you their car. Don't stupidly risk life and limb, or someone's property.
BTW...as a far as which of the three to date?
Don't forget, the choice isn't only yours to make!
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (5 December 2015):
I don’t think you have to make a decision after just the one date. I would say that if the distance is a big obstacle with any of them, forget about that. Whoever’s left, perhaps go on another date and be clear that this is just to see how things go as you enjoyed the previous date. Perhaps in getting to know them better and finding out more about them and what they’re looking for, it will help you decide if you want to take things further with any of them, and if so which one. This could, of course, mean that none of them are right for you, otherwise you’d be able to make a decision, but a second date with perhaps 2 of them to see if a clear preference develops isn’t a bad idea. How do you let them down without hurting them? It’s only one date. You’re not ending a long, serious relationship. Just tell them that they’re nice guys but not the one for you and wish them all the best of luck. That’s all you can do.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (5 December 2015):
 Choose the one with the largest bank account balance...
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (4 December 2015):
Choose the one with the largest bank account balance...
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