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I wearing my fiance's clothes and she doesn't know!!!

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Question - (30 March 2010) 3 Answers - (Newest, 30 March 2010)
A male United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I wearing my fiance's clothes and she doesn't know!!

Ever since I can remember I've found myself really aroused by the thought of being sexually dominated by another man. Then a couple years ago I finally started watching gay porn - I immediately felt 'at home' and very aroused and ever since only the thought of men really 'does it for me' if you know what I mean. I've found myself flicking through escort pages looking at hot men but not daring to go through with it.

Anyway to cut a long story short, when I was in the supermarket the other day I ended up buying a pack of womens panties. I took them to work and as soon as I put them on I felt more horny than I had in ages, since then I've been raiding my girlfriends wardrobe, leggings, skirts, thongs, panties I've warn them all and even taken pictures of myself doing it - I get soo turned on.

I think I've been a repressed gay man for a long time and now I'm slightly older I'm starting to experiment more and more ...and I like it. I feel comfortable at last.

However, after I've masturbated I suddenly feel really guitly and 'normal' again. Until the recoupe period is over then I'm thinking abour men's bodies and bits again.

Now when I'm at the gym I'm checking out the guys asses and bodies etc... and then fantasizing about them after. The problem is I come home to my fiance and she knows nothing about it - I'm leading a double life!!!

I'm not sure whether its an addiction or whether I'm just repressing my real sexuality

I dont want to tell anyone and I dont want to stop doing it... I just dont know what to do!!!

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A female reader, raiders United States +, writes (30 March 2010):

raiders agony auntbe careful put a hold on that engagement until you know for sure what you want. Marriage is not a game and you should not tie her down to you just to help hide your sex preference. Find out first! You might not even be gay but have a fetish, but the gay videos and you getting excited now that's questionable.

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A male reader, Dekten Netherlands +, writes (30 March 2010):

I will make two points here.

First about wearing ladies' clothes: that's called transvestite fetishism. By itself, it does not make you gay. Confession time: I myself find it quite arousing at times and I am definitely 100% heterosexual. Search around for the term and you will find a LOT of information about it, including studies by psychologists.

Secondly, you may be somewhat bisexual. Look up "Kinsey scale" in google. My guess is that you are *mostly* heterosexual, maybe 80%. I believe it's called "bi-curious".

One last thought: it may also be that the idea of breaking a personal taboo adds to the arousal.

Isn't it interesting how you can discover such unexpected things about yourself, huh?

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A female reader, Vicci United Kingdom +, writes (30 March 2010):

Vicci agony auntThis may be hard, but maybe you should hold off your engagement- it sounds to me like you are hiding your sexuality, but they only person that can really tell is you.

I think you should experiment in some way before getting married, rememebr, if you leave your wife because your gay its very embarassing for her aswell.

Just be careful what you do- try not to ruin her life or yours.

good luck x

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