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writes:So my friend was coerced into having sex a couple of months ago and I only found out about it today. When I did, it was probably the angriest I've ever been in my life. Though we're not going out, I tried to think of a way to help her, but I guess she wants to just forget about it. And I respect that, however, I can't help but feel like I should have done something. I wasn't there when it happened and I had no idea it happened, but I can't help the feeling like I just let it happen and as a result I feel weak and useless. I'm so used to having friends come to me for advice and help, but this time, I have no answer. I think she's doing well with it, but I feel like I'm completely useless. I know that it wasn't my fault, but I can't help but feel like I somehow allowed it to happen. Help? Reply to this Question
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reader, gigolojone  +, writes (7 September 2010):
 Do you believe in fate?
How about destiny?
What happened to your friend was destined to happen,that is how her destiny was designed and in that design,you were put at the end where you had to learn about it months after it had happened.
The best thing that you can do right now is to find out how it happened and guide her on how she can avoid or prevent the same thing happening again. Am sure this will help you feel better about yourself.
If she has chosen to put that incident behind her,this also helps you not to feel guilty and stops you from punishing yourself.
The fact that you gave her a listening ear shows that you are not as useless as you think but rather someone that can be relied upon.
Many times when we go through horrible situations,they keep haunting us till we have shared those experiences do we get some relief and that explains why she has decided to let it go.
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