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writes:So I fell pretty hard for a girl in one of my college courses. I finally got the nerve to ask her for her number and we went for lunch befor our final exam. She told me she had a great time and I suggested we go on a real date sometime and she agreed. The problem is that over the past 2 months she is super busy with 2 jobs and school but that we would still have to find a day for our date. I've been pretty stressed because she kept blowing me off but I think I've figured out why. I think I misunderstood what she meant by date. I took it in a romantic manner but she took it as just hanging out as friends and I think thats why she accepted so easily but she hasn't tried hard to make the time. I think people are way more prone to blow off haning out with someone as friends then they would be to blow off an actual date.Juging by what she has said to other people I'm getting the impression that she hasn't even realized I like her in a romantic way.I guess my question is what my next step should be? Also I'm moving in a month to a different city for the summer but we will be back in the same city in the fall. So I was wondering if I should try to get a date before I leave and try to leave things on a good note. Or just leave it how it is? I know she doesn't have super high interest in me but I don't think she has low interest either, I think she just hasnt thought about it either way. Reply to this Question
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (19 March 2008):
 Good heavens, before a final exam, all I could think about was the test!
Hmm, you may have figured it out correctly, that she doesn't realize you're really interested in her as more than just a friend. She may be so busy and worried about school, the two jobs (wow!) and life in general that she just doesn't find dating a priority.
Or it could be that she just thinks of you as a friend and isn't interested...
Unfortunately, you're going to have to put yourself out there on a limb and just ask her on a proper date. I so feel for the guys in this, they have to risk rejection and are expected to be strong and tough and just accept the 'no' without being upset about it. It kinda stinks, really.
Otherwise, just continue being her friend and be yourself, a sense of humor is a good thing, if you can make her laugh, that would be great! If you can do a favor for her to make her day easier, what with the two jobs and school, offer to do it.
I really do hope she says 'yes!' Good luck.
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reader, taekwondochick13 +, writes (19 March 2008):
you should go out on at least one date with her, because you asked her in the first place and you should stand by that since you practically promised. if your confused on if she likes you then the date will tell=]
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