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Ariiana
writes:I dont know what to do with myself. My mum made me go to V when i was 8 for spanish lessons. I was raped for 3 months by a man every night. I didnt really think about it before but when i was 11 it happened again for 2 months in Venezuela by somebody else. I keep getting the flashbacks and hearing their voices in my ears. I dont talk to my parents because we dont get along. I just dont know what to do anymore, im scared. Im scared of whats going to happen to me in the future. I cant handle it anymore. I keep crying about it everyday. What do i do. Reply to this Question |
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reader, Danielepew  + ♥, writes (6 October 2007):
 I'm with Doctor Pete. Try to get to the point where this awful events won't continue to rule your life.
My deepest sympathy for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2007): It will be ok just give it a lil time. Try and talk to a friend when times get hard. But don't blame your self its there fault not yours!! Life will get better! Just remember to be strong and I'm sorry that happened I've been through something like that when I was young I'm 22 and I really don't think about it anymore. Keep your head up
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reader, Dr Pete + ♥, writes (5 October 2007):
 Hey Ariiana
I am so sorry to hear what had happened to you, like baby duck said, it is hard to know what to write as a reply isn't going to solve everything.
I can tell you that I used to date a girl when I was at university who was raped and she experienced the same things as you, nightmares, flashbacks. There were times when she wanted to kill herself and she went through some terrible times, it really wreaked her life at the time. But, she did get over it and move on, and she allowed what happened to her to make her a better, stronger person.
I remember one time I had a conversation with her when she seemed really surprised that months had passed since she last thought about what happened to her. I think that was a big turning point for her, because she realised that it no longer ruled her life.
I know you will reach the same point, just like she did. In the meanwhile, try and get help where you can, as it will help, although at the time you might not think it does. But most importantly, know in the back of your mind somewhere that you will get through it and that the things that are disturbing you won't always and that you will become free of what happened.
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reader, baby duck  + ♥, writes (5 October 2007):
 Oh, honey ... you must see someone. I wish writing to you on a post would be enough, but it won't be. As absolutely horrible as this is, you really can come through it. It took me years, and I know so many other women that were raped as children or as adults, and it's Gawd-awful, but we've come through it.
Since you are not comfortable talking to your folks about this, please, PLEASE contact a hot line for just this sort of thing. They have so many ways to help you. Do not delay because this kind of wound affects your spirit and your soul, your mind, your body ... everything. I wish I could give you a hug, I understand the shame, confusion, pain, rage ... it's all real and it's all justified, but it won't help you if it stays inside. All those uncomfortable feelings are your inner wisdom telling you that you need help, that you cannot carry this any longer and you need people to show you how to let it go. Sending loving peace and healing your way ...
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reader, babygurl_1213 +, writes (5 October 2007):
just put that out of your mind........just know they don't know where you are & i bet if you block out those memories you can stop being scared....xoxox
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