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writes:i am very self concious since i was raped even more than i was before and that was alot i find it very hard to sleep because wen i manage to sleep i only get bout 2 hours if that sumtimes i get less than 30 mins i dont eat because i cant it makes me thro up everything i do now is just driving me crazy i constantly wanna top myself but i have things to live for now and i dont know what to do because being raped is one of the hardest things i have ever had to deal with and believe me iv had alot is there any advice that anyone could give me about this i dont see a councellor for the rape thing because i find it hard to trust people now which means i cant talk about it any advice is very greatful thanks you . Reply to this Question
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reader, bonym +, writes (29 August 2006):
 My dear girl,I cannot say I know what you are going through exactly but I have been through abuse in other ways and by not talking about it makes the situation worse, the way I am today is because I never and still wont fully open up to people about the trauma I went through. Please, please, please dont bottle things up, its easier for me to just sit here and tell you to talk, but believe me, keeping it all in will slowly destroy you if you let it. Remember you can be a victor and not a victim, you went through something no one should have to go through, but please dont bottle things up. Take care and I wish you all the best. xXx
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reader, Nay920 +, writes (29 August 2006):
What you should do is call a rape crisis hot line you can talk to them over the phone they can help you get over this pain.You really need to think about that you dont have to even see the person your talking to when you call the hotline you dont have to see the person your talking to and you dont even have to give up your name you can call them anonymously. Its not your fault that this happen to you your innocent.The hotline will understand because most of the people at there was raped and you should think about this because any relationship you will have after this if you dont get help it will effect your future relationship. THINK ABOUT PLEASE.
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reader, White Heaven +, writes (29 August 2006):
 You know sweety, Firstly I want to say that I am sorry for what happened, and secondly I will focus on you and not the rapist as you ask for help with you.A rape is an unwated feeling that brings your mind in you situations where makes you confused and lost because it did not happened with love.I suggest the very first thing you should do is to be happy with your self, start as from now... never try to forget the past because sweetheart, that WILL never happen unless you are in a terrible accident which then you will be considered disabled.In your situation, you have a strong mind which wants to be free from what happened...The only way to do that angel, is to speak.. say what's in your heart, sometimes it is important to communicate with your self, but that has a limit and getting cousalling will help you... As you said that you finding difficult to trust, why not rather start getting help with trust, you see, we live in a world where people are driven by their desires not what they need, in your situation you need to sit down very deeply looking into your self and find out the root of the problem... a rape can have thousands...Once you have founded the main issue act on it, and rememeber, the best way to do it is your self first, once you feel strong to speak for help, you will make it!Your life didn't end, just because you can't sleep well, eat well or even concetrate well it doesn't mean that it's the end of the world for you, NO! NEVER! , we need to sit and say it's the beggining of a new life, as people will say .. "What life are you talking about, I WAS RAPED! "... well, you have to answered, life continues, and make sure you are completely 100% confident that your next step comes from you and not anyone else, remember that you got raped not anyone else, you now make the choices that only makes YOU feel better.All the best, God Bless You Always.
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reader, bonnismiles +, writes (29 August 2006):
 hi chaz my name is bonni this is hard for me what about if i tell you this happend to me and it was by a family member and i went through it for 12 years well thats what i did and chaz it does get esier trust me it does but it takes a while i was scared to leave my house i felt dirty and sick all thetime but you know what helped me talking about it and my friends you need someone you can trust chaz i know you are hurting deep down and scared and angry but dontlet it get you down it wasnt your fault it was the creep who done it bet you are a lovely person who just needs a little help leave me a message and if you want we can chat anytime you want im here cheersxx
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reader, David Lewis +, writes (29 August 2006):
 Babe, the first thing you need to do is talk to somebody. Do your parents know about this? Have the police been informed? How long ago was this?
You have been extremely brave in asking for advice on here, but you really would benefit from speaking to a professional.
You say you have things to live for now, what do you mean by this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2006): I was raped when i was 13 and i found it really hard to deal with. I didnt have anyone to talk to about it and it was never mentioned at home. I am 32 now and although it still hurts i can hold my head up high and say "I did not deserve this and i have nothing to feel guilty about". If you talk about it to close friends and family it gets easier to deal with and the shame and guilt will slowly go. You have to live with this for the rest of your life and you can let this pervert run your life for you or you can take control and refuse to let him hurt you any more. BE STRONG.
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