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my name is nay i live in wilmington Delaware im 17 years old. I love to help people its my passion.I go to Wilmington job corps.Im going to school for cna.What makes me tick is annoying people who gets on my nerves.MY relationship with my boyfriend is going pretty good we been together for a year any more questions about me just ask me.

Trying hard to avoid a crush at work as I'm married with kids! Any advice ?

Q.   Hi there. I'm A happily married man. I dearly love my wife and we have 2 beautiful children. We are together since we were 16 and have never had any other partners. However I have got this wee crush on another Woman in work. I know its a non r...

A.   5 November 2006: listen let me just say that you shouldn't open that door first of all because you never have been with any other women an to just disrespect yourself and your wife will probably destroy your happy home. you should ask yourself do you love your wife ... (read in full...)

She want see other people, she lies to me, treat me like crap and expects me to just take it! What should I do?

Q.   my girlfriend has confessed to me that she wants to see other people because she has been with me and only me for 4 years.she was 14 when we met and now she is 18.it has been very difficult because she has confessed to making out with a guy in a ...

A.   6 October 2006:  if i were you i would leave her alone how can she say she loves you if she constantly keeps doing things to hurt you you should tell her how you feel and what she is doing is hurting you and if she continues to do it t you should move on i know its ... (read in full...)

How can I tell if I'm pregnant without the test???

Q.   how can i tell if i am pregnant without taking the test?...

A.   14 September 2006: the only way other than taking the test is if you dont come on your period or if you start to get morning sickeness and funny little cravings thats when you no you need to get a preagancy test.Most of the time you cant tell unless you get a test or ... (read in full...)

Brown periods. Normal???

Q.   ino this isn't really the sight to ask but i don't know who else to ask and i'm geting quite worried... i started my period around the christmas just gone and i've just come on this week and it is quite brown is this normal????...

A.   5 September 2006: Its very normal when i come on the first day its like that and the last day its normal.... (read in full...)

Vaginal dryness

Q.   i have only had sex a few times, why is there discomfort outside my vagina after sex. it fells hard and dry...

A.   5 September 2006: Do you use condoms if not you really need to go to the doctor and get a pap test if its not that then you need to find a condom thats right for you does it burn when you pee? if so you really need to get checked.... (read in full...)

I have decided to give up drinking and people think I'm a freak!

Q.   Hi I recently made a decision to give up drinking. I have drank for 10 years and to be honest never massively enjoyed it...... I loved the social aspect but it always gave me headaches and terrible next day hangovers, as well as occasional memor...

A.   5 September 2006: I want to say that i have much respect for you because you stop drinking my mom used to be an alcoholic and i know that its hard but you just need to hold your head up high be proud and look at your self in the mirror ever day and say that you love ... (read in full...)

My best friend slept with my crush!! Should I forgive her?

Q.   My best friend slept with my crush. ive had a crush on a guy named pete for 5 years now and i HAD the bestest friend ever. She helped me get with my crush and she said we were perfect together and i was pleased that she did all of this for me. ...

A.   29 August 2006: Well this is a tough one than again no its not if they both really cared about you it would not have went down thats not right dont be friends with that girl dont even talk to that guy until you hear the truth.Thats just so nasty of her she must be ... (read in full...)

He's scared of commitment but he gave me a diamond! I'm confused!

Q.   My boyfriend is scared of relationships and commitment but he got me a diamond ring for our 8 month aniversary. He says it's just a gift, and only means he loves me and nothing more. We are only 20. Could the meaning of the ring have a any other ...

A.   29 August 2006: It could just be a symbol of his love and you should not read anymore into it cause marriage is a big step and you dont want to rush because if you do yall relationship is not going to work it not going to end up with a happy ending so dont rush ... (read in full...)

I was raped and I cant talk about it

Q.   i am very self concious since i was raped even more than i was before and that was alot i find it very hard to sleep because wen i manage to sleep i only get bout 2 hours if that sumtimes i get less than 30 mins i dont eat because i cant it makes me ...

A.   29 August 2006: What you should do is call a rape crisis hot line you can talk to them over the phone they can help you get over this pain.You really need to think about that you dont have to even see the person your talking to when you call the hotline you dont ... (read in full...)

Love hurts

Q.   I just broke up with my boyfriend of 5.5 years. After talking to a few friends, I am convinced that I did what was best for myself. However, I still love him and I am fighting urges to call him and tell him it was all a mistake. This is the first ...

A.   24 August 2006: I know its hard just to just say forget the whole realationship but you have to be strong 5.5 years is a long term relationship maybe you should go out have fun i know its hard but you have to so you wont be in the house all stressed and ... (read in full...)

All my guy friends always hook me up with thier friends, why dont they date me when they all say im hot!?

Q.   I am a 21 year old single female and have a lot of guy friends. I just got out of a serious relationship so I am not looking for something real serious. My problem is that it seems as though all my guy friends are never interested in me, even though ...

A.   24 August 2006: They may just see you as a sister or a just a pal they may feel the same way it just that they dont want to break your heart or have a thing with you than what yall going to do when its over just go back to being friends that could feel weird can ... (read in full...)

A co-worker treats me disdainfully! How do I nip this behaviour of hers...in the bud??

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for awhile and work with his ex. She broke up with him a year and a half ago, has a new boyfriend whom she seems happy with so her current behaviour has me puzzled. She is a player and puts on a really good face to ...

A.   24 August 2006: She is just jealous of you so the power she has over you as far as work she is taking advantage dont let her.What you need to do is go to human resoures and let them know whats going on if that does not help get her on tape getting smart to you and ... (read in full...)

The person who gave my boyfriend an STD 10 years ago turns out to be someone I know!

Q.   My boyfriend has recently informed me that someone I know is the person who gave him an STD 10 years ago. I have to see this girl all the time and it kills me. He doesn't know whether or not she knew she had it at the time but he ended up with it ...

A.   23 August 2006: if you really love him you would stay with him and not let that bug you but if you feel as though its to much to handle than maybe its bettter off you to being friends because if you ever want to settle dowm with him you cant have any kids by him ... (read in full...)

My best friend likes the boy I like, and I wonder if I should leave her to it...

Q.   I'm in desperate need for help. My best friend loves/likes this boy that I have strong feelings for. I was talking to him first, but then she somehow started liking him, and thought he says he has no feelings for her at all. I'm confused as to wheth...

A.   23 August 2006: If you really care about this guy than you need to tell her how you feel about him and tell her to back off.Because your really care about him and that.Make it official and as far as your friend you need to tell her about her self and tell her what ... (read in full...)

After 2 and 1/2 years, she dumped me ..today. I am devastated...Need help coping!

Q.   my girlfriend of two and a half years just broke up with me today. she said she isn't in love with my anymore. i'm devistated and don't know how to cope with it. any suggestions, please?...

A.   23 August 2006: You need to get out have fun dont worry about her.You need to live your life because she left you you didnt leave she is not going to realize what she got until its gone.... (read in full...)

I have 3 failed marriages behind me - should I tell my new love?

Q.   I am a 49 yr old male, three failed marriages behind me, 1 my fault the others not. i have recently met the women of my life and not of my dreams, looks fade personality is forever. She does not know about my first two marriages and I am really ...

A.   23 August 2006: I think you should let her know that you have been married before she how reacts to it then tell her how many time because this woman could be the one for you and you dont need to hold info life that from her maybe its best if you tell her. Good ... (read in full...)

I've moved on since my husband left. Now he tells me he misses me and his new relationship is "not easy"!

Q.   My husband left me 10 weeks ago. Now his girlfriend wants to meet to discuss what happened and how we all move forward. My husband moved in with her for 3 days and moved home. He is constantly telling me how much he misses me etc, and how his...

A.   23 August 2006: first and for most he is a coward for leaving you then coming back thinking that he is going to get back with you because the woman he left you for is getting on his nerves. If you really love him them you will forgive him i wouldnt but its really ... (read in full...)

I told my boyfriend that I wasnt excited about our relationship anymore, now hes very distant and I regret it... Please help!!

Q.   Dear Cupid, I recently made the mistake of spilling some feelings I had to my boyfriend. What was going on was, since we've been together for quite awhile, I was feeling a little bored with our relationship and not very excited anymore and I told h...

A.   23 August 2006: Well maybe you need to tell him that and if yall love each other he should ba able to look pass that and move on when you love a person you should be able to tell whats on your mind and either he is going to take and run away from it or he is going ... (read in full...)

The dreaded ex!!

Q.   she dumped me 11 months ago for her married boss with 3 kids and i was devestated. Now im trying my best to move on but she keeps texting me virtually every week and finding any excuse to try and strike up some sort of conversation between us,i have ...

A.   23 August 2006: Maybe she realized that she made a big mistake in which she did that man is not going to leave his wife no matter how many time he say he is she messed up big time what you need to do is go out have fun meet new people dont worry about her cause she ... (read in full...)

What a boy wants

Q.   hi im 13 and i am just learning about boys and how basically all they think and care about is sex and women. i am now really upset cos thts all boys want :( so they have no respect for girls tht means :( i hate it! i hate tht that is all they care ...

A.   23 August 2006: Not all boys want that most of them are but you have to find the right one before you jump into the conclusion that all guys want is sex alot of females are like that two so dont think its just boys.... (read in full...)

Found some texts to another girl on his phone, is he cheating ?

Q.   i think my boyfriend is cheating on me because i found texts off another girl on his phone saying "hi babe sorry about last night i'll make it up to you love ya" but when i confronted them they said i have nothing to worry about they are good mates ...

A.   23 August 2006: was they ever in a relationship together if so they may still have feeling for each other maybe you should find out a little more about them before you start thinking that he is cheating on you he might me but dont be to sure about find out more ... (read in full...)

He 'played' over my underwear and then it started to hurt? Why?

Q.   Hey, this is sorta embarassing but, here it goes, im 14 years old, my bf is 15 (16 soon) i really love him, trust him, we've been dating for over 3 months now and were always very close for a bout a year before that, ive tossed him off but made it ...

A.   22 August 2006: Maybe you should slow down im not trying to be mean or any thing but you really need to think about your school work and yall dont need to be doing that until your older cause once yall have sex and you pop your cherry your goning to be hurting and ... (read in full...)

Need some good ideas to start building back that lost trust?

Q.   my boyfriend and i just broke up because we've been dealing with trust issues; dealing with my past. there are some things i am not ready to tell him... he is giving me a chance to prove to him that he can trust me.. but only as friends.. what are ...

A.   22 August 2006: If you really love this guy and you want him back then prove to him that you can be trusted by being his friend and showing him that your trust worthy he is going to want you back once he sees that you put in some effort.... (read in full...)

I asked why he won't talk to me on msn and he wrote "F**k ya!"

Q.   He says he doesnt want to speak to me. but i dont understand why.i asked him on msn and he said cz, i drew ... and he wrote f*** ya and went offline. shud i ask him agen? or leave him to it and see what he does? its really confusing me....

A.   22 August 2006: Dont write him back just leave him alone he is going to want you back until he realized what he had is gone. Try to make him jealous by seeing you having a great time with another guy than hes going to be all over you again guys are selfish like ... (read in full...)

Should I make the move on my step-cousin?

Q.   Sorry to repost this question but i need a more balanced opinion, all i got was male advice. I need women advice as well to gain a more balanced opinion. Plus can i have advice on what i should do to this situation: I have recently been on...

A.   21 August 2006: Its obvious that there was more than friends going on in her mind maybe you should talk to her the next time you can and see whether or not she wanted you to make a move. When i want to have sex with my bf i go and get in the shower and when i get ... (read in full...)

He doesn't want sex..is it because of his mishapen penis? What should I do?

Q.   I'm 17 and I want to have sex with my 17 year old boyfriend but he doesn't want me going any where near his penis i found this strange and scared myself by thinking he doesn't have one, but later after walking in on him "accidently" on the toilet ...

A.   21 August 2006: Maybe your boyfriend wasnt curcumsized when he was a baby and he is scared that you will freak out on him because of that maybe you should talk to him about it.And every girls has needs maybe you should tell him about your sexual needs and if he is ... (read in full...)

I need lubricants and know how to apply

Q.   where can u get lubricants? and how do you apply?...

A.   21 August 2006: You can get lubricant from planpranthood or at any clinic they will give you condoms and lubricant.... (read in full...)

what's a 69?

Q.   dear cupid, im 15 and very naive can some one please tell me wat a 69er is??? thanks xxxx...

A.   21 August 2006: a 69 is when you suck a mans penis and he licks on your vagina at the same time you lay on top and sucks his penis and he eats you out. Thats what a 69 is look at the numbers 69 that why they call it 69.... (read in full...)

How to suss a cheater?

Q.   Do you think counting condoms are a clear way to find out if someone is cheating..find one or two missing. is that a clear and definite sign that a person should break up...or other signs are better ways to see-such as how affectionate, excuses, not ...

A.   16 August 2006: you cant just count the condoms and think that he is cheating because he may have a brother or a friend who borrowed some condoms.The best way to see if your boyfriend is cheating is if you actually see him cheating what you need to is give your ... (read in full...)

We broke up and I still love her and am still sleeping with her!

Q.   please ladies help me I going crazy. Me and my ex girlfriend were together 4 about a year. After 2 months of being broken up and no contact she called me out of the blue and we hung out one night and had sex with each other. It's been about a week ...

A.   16 August 2006: i dont want to hurt your feelings but it was just a booty call she just wanted the sex what you need to do is tell her how you feel about her and if she`s not feeling the same way then you really need to move on and stop putting your life on hold ... (read in full...)

I'm on the pill, 3 weeks on 1 week off. Can I get pregnant having sex, on the week I don't take the pill?

Q.   I'm on the pill to help with my painful periods but i am now also using it as contraception. With my pill you take it for 3 weeks then get a week off. What i want to know is if you have unprotected sex on that week off do you have the same chance of ...

A.   16 August 2006: Its possible for you to get pregnant while your not on the pill you really should think about using condoms because not only can you get pregnant but you get a sexually transmitted disease and you do not want to get something that you may not be ... (read in full...)

Had sex and now I'm experiencing tenderness in my lower abdomen. Any advice?

Q.   Yesterday, I had sex. It was long, and very passionate and at points- rough, but today, my thighs are tender to touch and my lower abdomen is again tender to touch. The thighs I can explain but the pain in my lower abdomen I can't. Can anyone hel...

A.   16 August 2006: Go to your ob/gyn and find out whats wrong with you. Was it your first time and did you use a condom? ... (read in full...)

Had sex and now I'm experiencing tenderness in my lower abdomen. Any advice?

Q.   Yesterday, I had sex. It was long, and very passionate and at points- rough, but today, my thighs are tender to touch and my lower abdomen is again tender to touch. The thighs I can explain but the pain in my lower abdomen I can't. Can anyone hel...

A.   16 August 2006: Did you use a condom? If not go to your ob/gyn and tell them what wrong if its not that his penis may have been two BIG for you was it your first time.... (read in full...)

Never been kissed

Q.   dear cupid,im 15 and i am a virgin and i was windering if people think its still late to a be a virgin, also i have never done anything to snog a boy is this unusal for girls my age?. can any one let me know what they think plz thnx xxx...

A.   16 August 2006: Nothings wrong with being a virgin at your age.Actually its good because its alot of stds out and you dont have to worry about catching any thing and i know you dont want any kids so look at being a virgin in a good way.If you ever do have sex USE ... (read in full...)

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