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writes:I hope someone can help me with my problem. Im 22 years old and last year I suffered badly from stress and depression. I am now getting through it and am feeling alot better.However, I didnt realise how detatched I had become to all my friends and I admit I took alot of it out on them. Now I feel like I dont know them anymore. I still go out with them but they just feel like associates rather than friends - I dont think I could talk to them about my problems and be as close to them as i used to. obviously, I was subconsciously pushing them away when I was depressed as I didnt want to do anything and lost interest in everything. But now I feel so much better and want to do things but I feel so alone.Its like they got on with their lives while I was ill, and now we dont have anything in common. I dont know what to talk to them about when I see them. One of my friends, who I was real close to, doesnt ever ask me to go out with her anymore even though we always used to go out and she still goes out with other people, I really want to go but I dont want to ask. She obviously doesnt want me there.Everyone just seems so distant now. I wish I could just talk to them like old firends but im struggling. What should I do? I dont want to end up being lonely with nobody.
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reader, Angel ron +, writes (28 April 2006):
 Well everybody at some stage suffers from some sort of depression at a time in their life . It sounds to me that thses friends of yours are not your real friends but your good time party spend more money on me good time only friends. If you ask me you are better of finding new friends and having nothing to do with your past friends the ones that neglected you because your past friends did not support you when you needed it. Basically find yourself some real friends, friedns who are caring sharting and understanding and will stand by you no matter what and be there for you when you neeed them and not run away from you just because you have problems.
Any way take care :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2006): Your friends don't sound like friends at all, even that close one. For example, I went through quite a bit of crap a few years ago, as well as recently. I neglected a lot of my friends, but things don't really change between us. At first call, they're there for me. No questions asked. Just as I am always there for them - asked or automatically.
If you want to try to get reacquainted (sp?) with them again, maybe you can hold a dinner at your place with a select few of your friends. After dinner, you can shake up a few drinks, snacks, and maybe go to a park in a nice night, then tell them what you went through, how you felt, and how you feel now with them. All you have to do, is talk to them, tell them your feelings, ask them questions, and have them ask you questions, and so on.
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