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writes:My problem is that I look so young for my age. I was 23 a few months ago but can still very easily pass for a 14yr old.For example I always just get given a childs ticket for the bus/train without even having to ask, which you can only get if you're under 15. I got asked to show my ID when buying a cert 15 dvd, when the woman saw my ID she was clearly very shocked. If I go to the supermarket with my Mum she gets asked if she'd like some vouchers for school. I once got told I couldn't enter a club because they didn't believe my ID. These are just a couple of things that have happened.People are always talking over me and in clubs/pubs the only men/boys who will even talk to me are 18-19. It doesn't help that I'm fairly mature for my age and prefer the company of slightly older people. All my friends are a couple of years older than me and have settled down and now have kids so I'm struggling to make friends (no one takes me seriously).At the ages of 18-21 it was odd but now it's becoming almost freakish, I'm embarrassed to tell anyone my age. I don't know what I can do about it. I'm 5ft 3 and weigh about 8 stone, so I'm not exceptionally thin. I'm not that curvy but I do have some curves, I also have a very young looking face. Is there any way I can I make myself look older without making myself look cheap? It's really beginning to get to me. Not a day goes by where something happens that reminds me of it. I've been told I'll be grateful for it when I'm older but I doubt I shall want to be pubbing and clubbing as much at 50. Or be wanting a toyboy. At the moment it's making my life miserable and it makes it really hard for me to even find a relationship.
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reader, Orbiter +, writes (4 April 2011):
Orbiter is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi, thanks for the replies.I know it's not the worst problem to have by a long shot but it just gets frustrating sometimes when I have to work twice as hard to be treated like an adult while everyone else I know doesn't even have to think about it. It's sort of a relief to know I'm not the only person with this problem. Everyone else I know just laughs it off when I mention it to them. I can't change it so I know I'll have to live with it but I'm like smiliek in that I can't be bothered having to spend an hour a day fussing with hair, clothes and make up. At least it helps show who's shallow and who's not.@scared451 - yeah it's possible it's where I hang out. I live in a rural area in the middle of nowhere so when I go into a pub/club, at most there's 30 people (e.g on New Years Eve) or usually less there.
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reader, smiliek  +, writes (3 April 2011):
 i know how you feel. I'm 24 but only 5ft and young looking. I have to show id for 15+ movies! I'm married with a baby on the way and cop disapproving looks quite often. I think if i ever get the speech about young single mums i'm not exactly going to be polite. The only thing i've found that helps is dressing well (work clothes or fancy tops with nice jeans) heels and makeup. And doing hair up nicely. None of which i could be bothered with. I've figured the ppl i care about know who i am and those who judge on appearance alone aren't worth my time anyway. You'll find ppl who want to get to know you and will see past how young you look. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2011): I'm in the same boat. I'm 26 but look 15 and it makes me miserable every single day of my life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2011): Hey I have the same problem. Although I am only 20, but right down to your measurements I'm the exact same.I've found one thing that helps is wearing more sophisticated clothes and make-up. Its bad enough looking like a little girl, but wearing cute wee dresses that go perfectly with our body shape and the way we look doesn't do anything to help looking younger.I know exactly what you mean when you say you don't get taken seriously. I finished puberty 8 years ago but I look like my body shape is still developing. People see that, and assume that because you look young you must act young too.People tease me about it, and always without fail at the end of a club night I get asked by a few strangers what age I am and get given disapproving glances because they all think I'm a 15 year old out breaking the law. I get that especially when trying to buy a bottle of alcohol at the supermarket!!All I can say to you is, embrace it. We get to stay young for longer. We can't really help the way we look, and to be honest, it will be a blessing when we get older. As for only having 18-19 year old boys be interested - can't say I've had that problem exactly. I've had a whole range of ages come onto me from 15 to about 60 (although both were extremes, I'd say normally its from around 18 - 30). Are you sure that the problem in this area is not more to do with where you hang out rather than your age?? I could quite easily pass for about 15 but I have friends my age and friends at 25 and friends at 30. Maybe you should just branch out more and meet new people.
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