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writes: I have some problem. Please give me some advice. I like some girl but I don't know how to talk with her. She studies in the same class with me but I don't know how to start a relationship with her. I hope I will get the great answer soon. Thanks for coming to answer me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2007): well i get this nervous when i talk to a girl i like
even though we actually never talk to each other what am i saying is if you really like this girl practice what youre going to say so there will be no pressure
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reader, silvano  +, writes (31 March 2007):
hey a have problem the problem is to talk a girl but a bearly talk to her only cuz my friends help me but she give me her phone number but a dont know how to talk to her!!!!!
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reader, pops +, writes (7 July 2005):
Ask her if you could go over your notes on the class with her over coffee, or to prepare for an exam, or mid-term. Keep the first "date " on ground where she knows you both have something in common. Be prepared to help her with the course, instead of just being the dumb duckling begging for help. It works for maybe half a date, and then she decides that she doesn't need to be tied to someone dumber than she is. If she responds to you, talk about topics in the news. London won the Olympics for 2012 today, for instance. Why not ask her how she thinks that will help that city out? I once went on a blind date where I was paired up with a younger girl who absolutely would not talk about anything. After about a half hour, I was allowed to leave her and find another woman to talk to. A young fellow on our dorm floor sat down with the girl, and soon they were talking up a storm. They left together alone, and dated seriously after that. He was as quiet as a post, and wall flowers would have been bored with her! No one, in my dorm, or in hers, could figure out what the attraction was between the two. I also received the sympathy of all the men in my dorm who went on the " exchange ". Even the girlfriends of upper classmen told me later that they thought I had done everything possible to charm this girl, and felt sorry for me because she absolutely would not talk to me. So what if you try to talk to her, and she doesn't want anything to do with you? Talk to other girls. You have to start somewhere, and it might as well be with her. I was also shy in college, and passed up an opportunity to meet an absolutely gorgeous blond who came through the food service line where I worked. We smiled at each other and I always said hello, but I never tried to go beyond that. I suspect I made a big mistake. If she was not interested in me, she would not have smiled and returned my greeting. pops
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reader, Matt,20 +, writes (6 July 2005):
Hi brother,Well, In your situation the first thing you must do is gain confidence on what exactly you want, for me you seem very confused, I have a question for you : If you like this girl, but you don't know how to talk to her, how do you know that you like her ? I believe by reading that I get the impression that you like her looks, but when things come donw to a relationship, you HAVE to know that looks aren't anything, in fact the personality is, If you keen this girl what best advice that I can give you is approach this girl with the thought in your mind of friendship at first, you have to know about each other, before you take the step of relationship. Remember that you need to find out things like , What is your favourite .... ? what you will gain out of this is friendship, with friendship comes trust and with trust comes love. You need to take an step at a time if you really like this girl and want the relatioship to last for a very long time if not forever, you never know :).Now, to start a conversation, you need to be comfortable with your self first before you say a word to her, you need to be confident that what you say, you say it loud and clear. The girl will see this, defentely she will, you have to know that sometimes you will need to make the first move, if you reallu like this girl I believe this isn't as hard as it sounds, just go, talk about the weather, antoher thing that you must know is that a conversation, is a CHAIN, one word will lead to the other and so on, is the first word that counts and what I can advice you is try to make the first conversation something that she really likes, and enjoys it, like music, or movies or even school or a tv show from last night, or anything like that, small things becomes BIG so start slowly, an step at a time, know that Friendship --) Trust --) Care --) Love --) Relationship. Wish you all the very best, Matt,20.
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reader, becky05 +, writes (6 July 2005):
Start by talking to her first before even thinking about a relationship, say hello when you see her, make casual chat with her (about TV, music etc) and see where you go from there.
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